its not all the time, when we are out they are protective of each other but the minute we get back home they start my mum wont even have the both of them because of thiswe do things as a family and instill good rules and loving values, its been going on now for the last 2 years help !!
2006-12-19 08:59:11 · 24 answers · asked by mary 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just give it time... it all works out in the end. This is normal for this age and this stage.
2006-12-19 09:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most siblings with a small age gap like that have the same problem, and sorry but I think you'll just have to let them grow out of it! My older sister and I were the same.
I suppose you could try giving them something that they have to work towards together, e.g. use the old 'marbles in a jar' technique - you explain to them that whenever they play together nicely / say something nice to each other / help each other to do something, you will put 2 marbles in the jar. When it is full they win a prize that they will really enjoy e.g. going swimming / bowling / getting a new game they can play together, whatever they are into. You can also use the system the other way - if they fight or argue you give them a warning, if they don't stop then you take 2 marbles out. As long as the kids are clear about what the rules are, it will probably work quite well.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister were terrible as kids. We shared a room , toys and most friends. There is only 17 months between us and now we are the best of friends. My mum used to sit down with us and play board games. This instilled sharing with other in us. However, what I tend to do is what ever they are arguing about I take it away. Yesterday they were arguing who's turn it was on the PS2 so I banned it for 24 hours. They soon realise that if they play nicely together they keep their toys and have fun.
2006-12-21 10:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by niccog26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you find the answer, let me know! My two girls are 14 and 12. They get along really well together most of the time, but they fight like cat and dog some of the time. Actually, that's not fair - the cats and dog in our house get along really well all the time!
I think it's because they're very different personality types, but both are very competitive, even when it comes to fighting.
They fight far less now though, and when they do, they don't need me to sort it out - it usually ends with a flounce and a dramatic exit by someone, then it's all forgotten about two minutes later!
I'll watch your answers with interest!
2006-12-19 17:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have much the same problem. Leave them to it as long as they are safe and only intervene if thing start getting violent( to my horror my 8 year old bit her brother the other week She never usually does this but she was just so frustated)
Arguing with sibling equips children to deal with conflict in adult life. Your children must love each other or they wouldn't be protective of each other while you are out.
Obviously you need to separate them if things are getting out of hand- (nobody feels good about things when the teeth sink in.) just hang in there and know your not alone.
2006-12-19 17:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by mistyblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try what I do. I ground my kids from each other. They can not play together, talk, or be in the same room. They get so tired of it I always end up finding them playing GREAT together. Or you can do what a friend of mine does. She grounds them to each other. They have to hold hands all day. And they have to figure out how to eat, play, etc. connected. She does let them go to the restroom alone. But the other one has to wait outside the door and as soon as they are done they have to hold hands again. That works well for them and they talk and play nicely as well. Perhaps one of those will work for you. Good luck
2006-12-19 17:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi my name is olivia i have 3 kids one 7 one 3 and one 1 yrs old.
my 7 yrs old and 3 they get mad at one at each other. some times. try to talk to them and say why are u mad at each other. then they will tell u tey saying some think like u will all ways have each other. think about if you did not see each other for 2 weeks what would you do then. hope that can help you.
2006-12-19 17:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always used to fall out with my older sister,normal.Now have 2 daughters of my own and they fall out as well some times,again normal.Same goes for them as it did with my parents,allow so much,warn once,fiinal warning,smack last !! i didn't like it and nor do my daughters but they know where the line is and are great kids.Plus a warning of a smack usually means you don't have to any more.PS not into child cruelty in any way but as they say spare the rod spoil the child...
2006-12-22 15:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them do a physical activity together such as Tae Kwon Do. It will teach them discipline and teamwork. It will also challenge them and make them better children.
My daughter has had an amazing transformation in the last 5 months since she started Tae Kwon Do (with a good instructor). I would recommend it to everyone!!!
2006-12-19 17:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by jmrob29 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are suppose to act that way. It's part of growing up. As someone else said, wait 10 years. Your 17 year old boy will be very protective of his sister and the boys she wants to date.
2006-12-19 17:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's because they dislike each other. Siblings will always argue 4 no particualr reason. Maybe just talk 2 them about it and do activities at hom that cause them 2 rely upon each other.
2006-12-20 04:29:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋