we have been together for 6 months and although she says she loves me loads . she has dumped me because i wont move in with her . Can she still love me like she says or is she takin the crap
2006-12-19 08:49:29 · 17 answers · asked by bob a builder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to say she lives 200 miles away and i always travel to her
2006-12-19 08:59:13 · update #1
Get on with your life then..If she loves you she'll come running and if she doesn't well at least you'll be enjoying yourself..
2006-12-19 08:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be wary of someone who is willing to give and commit so much in such a short period of time. It's not possible to know within six months if you're ready to make a true commitment. You
re still getting to know someone after a year really. Nothing worth anything comes quickly. You're being careful and she's attempting to control you. That won't have a happy ending. If she does truly love you she would want to compromise whether than ggive you an ultimatum you're not ready for and have good reason to be. Relationships aren't once sided and don't occur over night. Let her know moving in together is not about your level of commitment but about valuing your mutual independence and continuing to grow together without playing
"house" outside of marriage.
2006-12-19 08:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does love you like she says, this is why she has dumped you. Because she thinks that if you loved her the same amount back then you would jump at the chance of living with her. She prob feels hurt & confused. If you still love her don't give up. Explain why you don't wanna move in with her and maybe it is an issue you can both work thru together.
2006-12-19 08:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She tried to force you to move faster than you wanted to in the relationship. That's not a good sign of the relationship.
I would say it's a blessing that she dumped you, but that's just me. A woman has to be willing to be on the same pace with you on how fast or how slow the relationship develops.
2006-12-19 08:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Playa Hata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you have done the right thing by not moving in with her. Six months is not a long time, and you are still getting to know each other. I would ask her why she wants you to move in, and find out her ulterior motive, seems to me, she will say she loves anyone if they are willing to move in with her. Perhaps she can't afford to pay her bills, rent/mortgage, utility bills etc, and wants someone to help her out paying them. Meanwhile, stick to your guns, she can't love you that much if she is willing to dump you for not moving in with her.Good Luck for the future.
2006-12-19 08:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there yes it is possible to love someone but have to let them go. If she found that it was impossible for her to continue loving you but being in pain as she wanted more, then she would have to cut her losses. view it like a car... if you have a car you adore, you love have worked hard to get and you own it, but it has something wrong with it that cant be fixed or is too expensive to fix, do you cut your losses and move onto another one that will work?
but it does not mean you dont love the first car .. does that help lol
2006-12-19 08:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by suzie1968uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously loves you a lot, because she wanted you to move in with her! After just 6 months is a bit soon tho, and if she isn't willing to wait a big longer for you, then she probably isn't right for you, and you should move on to find someone who IS.
2006-12-19 08:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by S L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may think that because you will not move in with her you do not feel the same as she does maybe if you are on talking terms you should try and talk to her and tell her how you feel and why it is you are not ready for this commitment after all it has only been 6 months and i am sure uf you explain how you feel she may understand! good luck.x
2006-12-19 08:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by knowledge is power 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's tired of waiting for you. Too bad she's not more patient. 6 months isn't that long. Do NOT move in with her! She sounds like the type who'd get pregnant on purpose or constantly pressure you to marry her.
2006-12-19 08:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to be with her all the time, but she cant force you, its YOUR choice.. just take your time and dont rush into things.
AND i think she should start travelling 200 miles for you aswell.. its suppose to be 50/50 in a relationship!
2006-12-19 09:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wanted commitment.
You didn't.
She decided to look elsewhere.
She may still have feelings for you, but she is quite rightly chucking you so she can have a chance of finding the kind of relationship she really wants.
What is your problem with this? If you don't want to commit to her, why are you bleating about it?
2006-12-19 08:55:00 · answer #11 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋