ok so there is this guy in my class. he likes me. hes a really big distraction and i really DONT like him. i am scared of him because he is one of those guys that looks like hes gonna beat u up. i am a 13 year old girl who cant say no to anything! this guyis ALWAYS touching me. like today, we were watching a video in class, and he starts feeling up my legs and it makes me really uncomfortable! im afraid hes gonna try to do something! please help. i have told my friends, and they say dont worry about it. but i cant help it! i mean hes always hugging me and touching me and i NEED help! thanks
2006-12-19 08:45:36 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, my suggestion, as a parent, is to ask your parents about this. If, for some reason, you aren't able to do this, then here is alternate suggestion.
Take him aside in a public place and tell him you don't like what he's doing. Tell him if he keeps it up you'll make a scene to embarrass him. If he continues, make a scene, in front of the whole class or whomever is around.
I understand your fear, both of him and of saying no. But just because he looks like he can beat people up doesn't mean you're defenseless. And I hope you can learn to say no, it's an important word in life.
Make sure to tell others what's going on too, in case trouble arises.
I don't know if this helps, but it's the advise I'd give my own daughter.
If for some reason you haven't talked to your parents about this yet, then I suggest you do so. Good luck.
2006-12-19 09:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by baconshmals 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way this selfish jerk is going to get the hint is if you assert yourself and tell him to back off. Otherwise, this is going to go a lot further than just his hand on your leg. If you are really that concerned, you better bring it to the attention of a teacher or something. You can ask that they be discrete, to keep an eye out for his behavior, that way it looks like the teacher noticed and you didn't rat. But seriously, if he goes any further, you better tell a teacher or your parents.
2006-12-19 08:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better learn to say no or one of these days some guy is going to go too far and rape you. Im not trying to scare you but thats what happens to girls who cant say no. and if you DON'T say no then it is not rape. He would get away with it.
You need to tell the teacher in the class what is going on. Do it after class and have a friend go with you for support. What he is doing is unacceptable but YOU are letting it happen.
2006-12-19 08:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a girl who can not say No to anything you have more problems than just this guy!! Stand up for yourself, tell him to leave you alone, when he touches you tell him to stop! If you let him walk all over you then everyone else will too and see you as an easy target!! wake up and stand up girl!
2006-12-19 08:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared of him then go to the school counselor or your parents. Also get transferred to a different class. LEARN to say NO and slap him if he touches you after telling him no. Is he your age?
2006-12-19 08:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Red Velvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your teacher or school counselor and tell them what's happening and that you are afraid to confront the boy...they will then talk to him and if it happens again, and you report it, he'll get in trouble (if he doesn't initially).
DO NOT just "don't worry about it"...your friends are steering you wrong there...get it stopped immediately before it gets totally out of hand. Also, sit away from him in class so he cannot reach you.
2006-12-19 08:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you should say something if not to him than your teacher. Although you may be scared of him tell him you don't want him touchin you and if that doesn't work you need to tell your teacher, your parents everyone because God forbid something happens but it needs to be shown that you complained tell the principal do whatever you can to get him to stop because if you tell him you don't like it and he continues sweetie he might hurt you and i've been there before its not nice TELL EVERYONE!!!! Tell his friends to talk to him jus make sure you feel safe!!
2006-12-19 08:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him ur really not interested in him but ull be his friend as long as he quites touching u like that and if he dont then tell sumone and not ur friends unless u have a true friend thatll do sumthing about it! boys r perverts(sumtimes) yea im 13 to and most guys in my school are disgusting they dont go for the legs the go for the boobs and i just slap them if they touch me!
2006-12-19 08:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must report this incident to the Principal's office or one of the school counselor. Feeling up someone's legs should not be tolerated by any means.
2006-12-19 08:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUNCH THE PERVERT!!! or...if he keeps touching your legs, put some plastic wrap or something around your legs or thighs and put ink on it or something and when he feels you...surprise...but best idea is to scream really loudly "stop masturbating!!!!!!!!!!!" or something to the entire class. he will be embarresed and stop...but listen to me...i had a huge group of guy friends...at a club...and two of these guys tried feeling me up...i was like you and kind of tried moving them away...well, now i have learnt...shove the guy away and speak very loudly like "stop it!"
trust me---people aren't gonna think bad of you trying to get a perv away...the people will think bad of him!
xao
peace out
research how to punch...very important you've got the stance right
:D
2006-12-19 08:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋