For the most part of my life I have been living a dream where I would loose my virginity to my soul mate. Because of this reason I have been obsessed with finding her. I am not like most people and cannot sleep with just anyone and that is the main reason why I think this way about loosing my virginity to someone special. But it has really taken a toll on me thinking about it and wondering when it is going to happen and it has become all to much for me so I have decided enough is enough I am making myself ill thinking this way. I mean I would rather stop looking for love and start living healthy again. But how do I do this now that I have become obsessed with it? I mean don't get me wrong I would still like to loose my virginity to someone special. I just don't want to be obsessed with it anymore. And try and learn to be happy with myself again.
2006-12-19 08:37:57 · 16 answers · asked by Hades 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't know I was looking for love until I found you, baby.
2006-12-19 08:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I thought like that for a long time-and then just when I least expected it love came into my life from someone I already knew but least expected to become a special friend. So I lost my virginity to a woman who I loved and later married, and whilst we are now divorced I can look back on my first time with fondness and know it was with someone who felt as strongly about me as I did about them.
You don't have to spend your whole life making love to the same person, but so long as your first time is with someone you love and who loves you then you'll be fine. It is quite normal for the first person you love and/or make love to to not end up being your partner for life.
I waited a long time for the right woman, even though we are no longer together I can't think of anyone better to have shared my first time with.
2006-12-19 10:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I am looking for someone special too. I want her to be a virgin, non smoker, little drinker, clever, shy and giggly.
Not happening for me either.
The question is if you got into a relationship, got married and then found your perfect woman ( that your dreaming about now)
would you divorce your wife to go with her.
Don't jump into things.
It's not an obsesstion, it's standards and thats something not many people have.
Be proud of them.
2006-12-19 08:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Michelino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are but I respect you already! What self control and such a sweet and pure heart. You are going to be okay. It is natural to be looking for the love of your life that is what the mating scene is all about. Try not to look so hard though...try to distract yourself by doing other things you enjoy...drawing...running...etc. If you look too hard she may be standing right in front of you and you might miss her. So slow down...the best things come to those who wait! I am proud of the choice you have made. Good luck sweetie!
2006-12-19 08:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by snowangel101224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing is that I have been spending my entire adult life looking for love too. Once you get to the point where you become so disillusioned, you say to yourself "I will be happier by myself". There will come a point (quite soon by the sounds of what you are saying) where you will realise it. Don't loose it to just anyone but when that special girl comes along, you will know it :)
2006-12-19 08:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep your viginity for as long as you loose it to someone you love and trust dont try anything you will end up doing wrong thing good things come on their time its becoming difficult now because its about to happen they say you will be about to see the light if its dawn dont forget you only loose virginity once and its not restored even if you had a wrong choice
2006-12-19 08:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Eunice M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time you look for love it never seems to come your way...now, however I feel you're getting to the point where you're fed up looking, which means....it shouldn't be that far off.
Know this though wherever you're looking you won't find it, it'll come from totally the opposite direction.
2006-12-19 09:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your thinking too long and hard about your perfect woman, no woman could live up to your standards so if you don't just relax and get out there and have some fun chances are you'll miss out on her
2006-12-19 08:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sweet but you cant be a "palm pilot" for the rest of your life. sometimes you can look to hard so lay back and see if it comes to you.goodluck
2006-12-19 08:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by sherminator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as you-some how- manage to take your mind off of this special someone you're desperate (not a great choice of words-don't take offence, it's just me lol) to find, you'll find love because somehow -I've heard- that once you stop looking for love, you find it!
Hopefully you'll distract yourself soon and find love!:)
2006-12-19 08:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try 2 relax take it easy and love will always find a way when u least expect it. by relaxing a little when it comes u will know.
2006-12-19 08:45:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋