My hubby went away to MN (another state) for a pro football game. When he got home I noticed the only underwear he wore was thongs....Yes he does where these around me but to go out and where these...And he really had nice stylish clothes with. He was out in the bars blah blah blah...Hooters.....Places like this...Today when i went to do his laundry i noticed in one pair of underwear, a few small spots....Im not sure what these are...They were white kinda crusted.....would this be ***....and if not what else could this be? Pre *** from getting turned on...Could it be anything else....Im pregnant and maybe im just over reacting. I dont want to bring this up if im in the wrong. Thanks so much!!!
2006-12-19 08:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by jess_n_flip 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i dont inspect his underwear, lol thats sick. I happen to do all the laundry around here means men seem pretty much useless when it comes to things like this. They happened to be inside out......thats how i seen them
2006-12-19 08:42:50 · update #1
I would be feeling exactly the same way - These are a few questions that might help with your answer. Does your husband usually wear stylish clothes when he goes out? Do you ever see him looking at other women? Are the other men he goes out with the kind of guys who would encourage or detour non magnogamous behaviour? Has he changed his attitude towards you recently?
The fact you are pregnant means your slightly more sensitive about this because of your hormones, although finding 'white spots' is good cause for you to raise questions about his fidelity.
Were the spots on the inside of his underwear or the outside? If they were on the inside, it's most likely that the spots came from him and there isn't too much to be concerned about.
The fact of the matter is, if you have concerns about this, you need to raise the issue with your husband - if you don't bring this up, is it still going to haunt you in the back of your mind? Honestly? A very similar thing happened to my friend, but the 'spots' she found were on the bottom of her husbands shirt. She was suspicious and actually went to the local dry cleaner and had them tell her what this stain was. They confirmed it was indeed 'a naughty substance' and she confronted him about it. If your were 100% about your marriage you wouldn't be on this site asking questions about this!! Go with your womanly instinct and trust your gut feeling. I really hope this works out for you. Good luck.
2006-12-19 09:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by axix9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wht not bring things up? Communication and trust are key factors to a healthy relationship. Try approaching him about having taken only thongs, don't make any accusations. Just listen and use your wisdom, not your insecurity to judge what he says. Explain to him your concerns. Only you know your hubby, and only you can tell when he is being honest and if what he is saying makes sense. My advise, if you don't or can't trust the one you are with, you shoudln't be with this person, even if you are expecting. If anything did happen, your baby does not need to pay for anything that he might have picked up and brought home with him.
Wish you luck!
2006-12-19 16:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by katiesmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication and honesty are the best thing to do. I would ask him or it is just going to eat you up inside. Maybe you guys will have something to laugh about afterwords. He is your husband your best friend you should be able to talk to him about anything.
2006-12-19 19:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart your not in the wrong put two and two together you better ask before he gives you something know what i mean please i know he will come up with a excuse but you better think very hard are you worth more then that
2006-12-19 16:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by darlene l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definelty sounds like c*m. Seems a bit weird to me.
2006-12-20 05:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥cute_lil_hottie82♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's cheating?
ITS PROBABLY SPERM.
Whoa your hubby wears thongs? EWW!
2006-12-19 16:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Ava ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only stuff i can think of that would be white and crusted is c*m.
2006-12-19 16:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, he problery just masturbated, i doubt he cheated
2006-12-19 16:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a weirdo, please leave his panties alone, and what if he were to inspect your panties and find nasty crusty stuff, how would you feel. YOU ARE NUTZZZ poor guy!
2006-12-19 16:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋