my mum always said that i is the stupid girl because of my GPA in colleges is not good enough to her...she want the CGPA 3.5 above but i have problem with my classmates to study ....my classmates are the open mind people...but i dont like to social party so my friends make me feel low ...i want to talk to my mum my probleams but my mum dont understand what i need...
she always said that she never go university so she dont know to solve my problem,,,,,always make me feel guilty ....make me feel i hate her...but in my relegion i can not to hate my mum because it wrong ...we must always respect parents....eeeeeeeeee...
i always quarrel with my mum...i'm a 21 years old....study in UiTM Malaysia...take Bachelor Business Computing....and my birthday 24th dec and its mean 4 days become my birthday so i dont know to face my mother..... and thanks for ur anwser
2006-12-19 08:27:18 · 16 answers · asked by azim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down with your Mom. Tell her you are trying your best and you want to do good in school. Tell her she should encourage you and not call you stupid, as it hurts your feelings and makes you feel bad. You are 21 years old, you must yes respect your parents, but you must also stand up for yourself, as you are a woman and you should be heard. You do not have to yell to get your point across, be civil and tell the truth. It is important to share your emotions with your mother, so that she can help you not hinder you with your school and your future. If you need a tutor arrange at school for help or ask one of the top students if they could spend a little time helping you after class.
You do not have to be in any particular study group to aspire to new heights. but....... you must believe in yourself, your ability to succeed and not let anyone's remarks deter you from being the best you can be.
I would find a time when you and your Mom are alone and speak with her about this.
What is happening now is not good for your spirit and I am sure once she realizes how her words are hurting you, she will change her ways. Good luck and have a happy birthday....
2006-12-19 08:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get you down. Someday you will be out on your own living your own life. Yes I agree you should respect her but many people are smart in different ways. Just because someone has a 3.5 or 4.0 it doesn't mean they are any better than someone who can create something beautiful. I read a book once where the author said we only measure people on what they learn in school. Many artists are very talented and are very successful. Be yourself and do what you want. Your mother will see how happy you are someday and realize that is what's most important.
2006-12-19 08:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you are sorry to have disappointed her, but you are trying your best. Tell her that her criticisms are not helpful, but her support would mean a lot to you.
Showing respect to your mother and father does NOT mean you have let them insult you, or that they are always right, or that you can't give them some guidance on how to parent you more effectively.
I'd also recommend an English language course while you are at college - your English still needs a lot of work.
2006-12-19 08:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor at school.
You are not a stupid girl. Your mother is wrong. You need to work hard and identify areas where you need improvement. Talk to your mom about other things than school and grades. Try to learn about her heart and goals and ask her to stay off the topic of school until after your birthday.
Talk to your instructors when school is in session and find out where you are weak and how to strengthen those skills.
Be kind to your mom and ask her to be kind to you as well.
2006-12-19 08:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother and you have to solve the communication gap
first
then you both need to respect each other
before you can have a true mother/daughter relationship
if she continues on not listening to
you or doesn't;t want to listen then do this on your own
she will be of no help to you
your mother is old fashioned in her ways of learning
she feels that since she didn't go to college . she won't know
the answers to your problems..life and college.
2006-12-19 08:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shrinks are great to talk with because they are not emotionally involved with your life directly.....
They are great at being able to see more of the big picture and ask you questions that will lead you to your own answers.
Parents are people, just like anyone else. They aren't any more perfect than anyone else. It's not their job to have all the answers, even though we'd like them too.
Get yourself a scrapbook and collect photos of what you think you would like to see show up in your life..... positive stuff. Think positive... like attracts like.
What's most important is what YOU think about YOURSELF..... God made you, and God doesn't make junk.
Blessings.
2006-12-19 08:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 12:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mommy not liking ur talkin so u then talking to daddy. u problem study wit classmates then simple study alone. but me suggesting u talk to ur mom and explaining ur problem. she not help but she understand and not shouting then atleast.
one suggestion more i giving. learn english than ur CGPA increase maybe.
2006-12-19 08:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by tornjeansandguitar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do the best you can, if you need help studying get tutoring from the kids in your college, you should not feel bad if you tried your best, tell your mom that, i hope she understands:)
2006-12-19 08:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let religion guide your thoughts on this. You are an adult and can make decisions for yourself now and it is time to face your mom and discuss how you feel. Make her listen as one adult to another and I'm sure you can resolve your feelings in time.
2006-12-19 08:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋