I have asked this question ten times, but i get different answers, Im 24.
Thing is that i have been seeing a guy for a long time, his 38. but weve been on and off. I have told him to leave me alone many times, but he always finds exuses to call, like birthday or chrismas or what ever !
He is married, and separated according to him. I kinda believe this and especially i think its over emotionally between his wife.
But he has said for a long time his in love with me. And last week i said it wont work because he already has 3 kids and I want my own one day! He said he wants kids with me..
I am so fed up with him, because we have had sex, but when i ask him to indroduce me to his kids or take me to his home, he said his divorce is not finished untill april. Im sick of it that he wont make me enough quality time, and his always busy!!!
I have been thinkin what to do, and i think i will tell him im seeing someone else, even when its not true! Should i dump him and how?
2006-12-19 08:27:02 · 14 answers · asked by Kittykat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you have asked the question multiple times should be a sign that you aren't happy and are fishing for some kind of answer.
Tell him it's over and to give you a call when he's got some divorce papers to show you.
Where do you expect the relationship to go otherwise? You two could keep on sneaking around for another 10-20 years, the whole time him coming up with reasons why he's not yet divorced.
Don't lie to him to break it off...that makes you no better than he is.
2006-12-19 08:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, you don't sound very happy in this relationship. You are 24 & want a family in the future & I assume marriage. Do you really think you will have a secure future to bring children in to. It sounds like you will inherit his wifes problems. If he is cheating on her with you, chances are he do the same to you. This is the truth even if you don't want to hear it. It may even hurt now. But you are so young & the future is just waiting for you. Think this over decide what you truly want & then go get it. I have been married 38 yrs. & have 3 wonderful sons. Believe this it is well worth setting up a good life for yourself. It often takes time & effort to put it together but now I have no regrets. I hope this helps you in some way.
2006-12-19 08:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has any control over how they feel so how can we control how someone else feels? We can't. You can't make him wish he didn't dump you. The only way to come out on top is to move on. Anything else makes you look like a petty jerk and it makes you feel like a petty jerk. You ought to be happy to be rid of him. He dumped you after a year just because you talked to someone else. That is just stupid. It was a childish, idiotic thing to do and you are better off without someone like that.
2016-05-22 21:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think of leaving him since hes not making time for you or letting you all the way into his life, i wouldn't recommend lying to him and saying your with someone else unless its true, that always tends to cause more problems that it fixes, but yes i would highly think of moving on, i would just be honest and tell him what the reasons are and thats what you want to do....
2006-12-19 08:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Justin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl u should dump him. he might just be using u 2 cheat on his wife. sounds 2 me u r his mistriss. if he won't take u 2 go meet his 3 children he might not be getting a divorce from his wife. there iz a chance that he is just using u 4 sex if u r on and off all the time. dump his ***!
2006-12-19 08:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dixie grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't put up with someone who's just using you for sex. He's so not worth it...go out have fun while you still can! You're 24..you don't need that kind of crap.
2006-12-19 08:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by dark_roses13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not fair to yourself or the other woman. she does not know about you and he is lying. you deserve better, dont settle for a man that is married and with kids. if you wait God will diffantly bless you with someone to love you the way you love them and you can start your own family.
2006-12-19 08:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by TE TE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him cuz he is cheating on u.how he go say that his divorce is not finished until april.if he likes u he would have let u see his children even if her wife was at home.he deosn't have a good life.
2006-12-19 08:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nana B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser...give me a try sweetcakes
2006-12-19 08:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzard Tongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. Find someone closer to your age too.
2006-12-19 08:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋