Once upon a time, i thought i was different. I used to think that being monogamous..?

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was easy and other guys were just making excuses for their infidelity. Now I see I am no different. Question is: Is there anyone out there who knows a man who has been faithful? If so how does he or you do it? There are so many beautiful women in the world, and so many of them are single and looking. I dont think with my sexual organ, so its not always a sex thing. Its a companionship, affection, attention, thing which every woman offers but differently. Im not some dog or whore or player, im just an honest man who's trying to grapple with this issue.

Answer 1

I know few people that are faithful.Most why people cheat is because there is alot of beautiful people out there and they like to try new things but if you really like someone you would give that person a chance.Thats how I see it.And if that's true about that than I dont know why you dont have someone.If it's true.

Answer 2

Men are not faithful because they have no self control, they're greedy, arrogant, and selfish. And it's sad to say that no men in my generation are even worth being faithful to because they don't know the first thing about it or about respecting women. The only faithful man I've ever known was my grandfather who was married to my grandmother until the day he died a few years ago. I get hit on my married men all the time.. single guys, they always have multiple gals on the side. At this point the future is pointing towards multiple-person relationships..

Answer 3

As a woman, I will say honestly that men are not alone. It is very hard to control our carnal urges. Just think, what is the best and most exciting part of a relationship?....The first couple of weeks right. And we all wish that feeling would last forever, but the truth is, it never does. Everyone wants to cheat, you can separate yourself from the rest and control yourself. The easiest way would be to avoid those situations in the first place, and you won't be tempted. I have not been with a man who hasn't cheated, but I will not be a hypocrite and say I haven't cheated too. **** happens.

Answer 4

Congratulations for being honest about your feelings! I know what you're going through, and I'm a woman! I stayed true no matter what for quite a few years, then I started to feel differently. I talked open and honest about it with my hubby. We now have a truth policy. If one us gives in to temptation, we're honest about it. It may ruin our marriage in the long run, but we're always going to be the best of friends. Sounds bizarre, I know, but it works......for now.
Oh, I also have a close male friend that won't cheat no matter what comes his way. Not sure how he does it, he just does. Bravo to all the honest ones! (I am not condoning cheating AT ALL)

Answer 5

Its a matter of honesty to yourself, Its true there is lots of temptaion out there you have to always remember put yourself in your loved ones shoes and think how hurt you would feel if she was messing around on you. My ex actually was a very honest man respect him dearly for that one day he told me straight up can not be with you because he feels he needs to explore period and you know what it hurt like well you know! But the fact that he was honest was enough for me. He could have continued to be with me but eventually would have cheated and yet he did not now thats not from a relationship of 4 months but of 3 years! So just remember it starts with you.

Answer 6

Its called self control and having dignity in yourself. I'm sick and tired of men acting like they have no control over it. Dont you think women also notice there are different men who offer different things ? Do you think when a women meets you, you are the end all be all of everything she has ever wanted in a man ?

Answer 7

You're young and fine and you should have fun. When the right girl comes along you will become the man that you want to be. That doesn't mean that you won't still look but when you really love someone you will be a good man.

Answer 8

I think that once you find that one girl you want to spend the rest of your life with, its easier to be monogamous.
I know my boyfriend is. We were actually talking about it last night. He was saying that it would be easy for him to go for another girl if he wanted to. But, he really doesn't want to because I'm everything he wants. When we have a problem we work through it and we also don't base our relationship on sex.

Answer 9

It is a sex thing, but it's your biological imparative as a male, you are wired that way. That doesn't mean you can't control it, though.

Nobody would be a "cheater" if they didn't get involved in relationships or lie. If people who wanted to sleep around made that clear to everyone and no one expected monogamy, then no one would be cheating and no one would get hurt--they could choose to go forward with you or not.

So, I guess my point is--be true to yourself but be honest in your dealings with others.

Answer 10

unfortunately, you are right. there are less and less faithful people (not just men) in the world. i can definitely count more cheaters than i can monogamous people.
as for guys.. yeah, i do know some.. let me use one closest to me.. he was in love with the woman. absolutely head over heels in love. she was everything to him, and he knew it and there was no way in hell he would want to risk it for just another pretty girl, b/c he knew what he had was special and irreplacable. that's the thought he had..and it apparently worked b/c he kept it in his pants until she blew it and lost him.