she tries to tell her mom but she deosnt belive her and i dont no her that well but she has very great friend who nos her very well but one last week she got shot and she deosnt know what to do and shes only11
2006-12-19 08:16:52 · 27 answers · asked by Dania h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let me get this straight...
your cousin who is eleven years old and who you dont know very well has a best friend that got shot last week.....
and this same cousin has a step-father who is abusing her every night....
And you want to know what to do about it all...
I hope that I am reading your question correctly....
The most important thing is to tell your cousin that you believe her and want to help her... Tell her that you are trying to figure out how to help and in the meantime for her to know that someone, you, cares very much and wants to help....
I would consider suggesting that your cousin comes to stay with you and your family for a few days to 'help her get over the shooting of her best friend...' Don't say anyting about the abuse at first... just get her the heck out of that house...if it is at all possible... Talk to her mother about it and tell her mum that you know she must be very worried about how her daughter is coping with the shooting.... and that a change of scenery might be helpful.... If you challenge her mum about the abuse she may well close ranks and not let her daughter go anywhere... and place the child in more serious risk....
Once your cousin is at your place then you can arange for a trusted adult to talk to her.... and encourage your cousin to tell them about the abuse... If your family is too close to her mother or step father they too may close ranks and deny the situation... extended families often turn a blind eye to this kind of abuse ... expecially if it has been going on in the family for generations...
Even if you have to take your cousin to somewhere safe... if your cousin will talk about what happens to her there are people who can help her.... it will not be easy... not for you and not for your cousin... but it is better to face this and resolve it as soon as possible... Take her to a women and girls health centre, to police station, to a welfare department office (though I'd do this as a last resort) or take her to some government office and tell them you need immediate help to keep your cousin safe...
If you are in Australia all public servants and all people involved in the care of young people have a legal obligation to help her in whatever way is needed. That means that doctors, lawyers, teachers, child care workers, and many other people have to help your cousin and if they dont do something to help then you can report them for not helping...
If you are very young yourself talk to a trusted adult and tell them you need to know a safe place to take your cousin ..and you need to know what to do for her... and then ask them to help you do that.... tell them what is happening...
If the first person, second person and even thrid person do not help just keep asking people to help until someone does help...
You could ring her school and ask to talk to the school counsellor... find out when the counsellor will be there and then ring back and talk to them... tell them you know your cousin is being abused every night and needs help ..... tell them that you want to know she is going to et some help... Tell them you are not in a situation to help as you are young yourself but you will keep rining until you know your cousin is safe...
You may be the only lifeline your cousin has..... hang on there and keep talking and telling people until someone helps her....
Oh And if you are in Australia.... PLEASE DO NOT DIAL 911 that is the american emergency number....americans forget that there are countries other than theirs on this planet......
THE EMERGENCY NUMBER FOR POLICE in AUSTRALIA IS 000
that is zero zero zero...
You dial 000 and an operator will answer and ask you whether you want fire ambulance or police and you need to tell them Police.... then the police will answer and talk to you...
You can call you local police station too by looking up their number in the phone book... and ask to talk to an officer who works in child protection... they will know exctly how to help your cousin.
2006-12-19 09:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be the one to tell someone. If her moms in denile she should go to the school councilor, a teacher or even the school truent officer (the police officer at the school). These people are there to help with these things and they will help. The most important thing is for her to get help now. she could even go to the local hospital or police officer. Or she could tell one of your parents...
I want you to know that the best way for things to move quickly with this is for her to report it with the local hospital or police station. Many times the social services wait for several reports from the schools. If she tells the police they will have her checked out at the hospital. If she reports at a hospital they will call the police and she will be removed. It will be helpful for her to know she has support from her family and friends because what she is going through is extremely difficult and emtionally taxing. She also needs to know she is believed by someone. And just because she screams at the top of her lungs doesn't mean mom will come running. Maybe mom isn't home when this guy abuses her.
2006-12-19 11:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by earth_angel_589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call someone you trust and who seems very anit-pedophile. They will most definately do something. Call the police, childrens services and/or a neighbor even. You do need to do something though, or your friend will just keep getting hurt and eventually it will have a long term trauma on her. When someone gets abused, especially at a childs age, it tears at their Will, there strenth and many other important characteristics kids need to grow up with. Be a friend, be a hero, be someone who does something.
Jonesy
2006-12-19 08:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jonesy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should tell her teacher at school or a counselor.If you think someone is being abused you should report that person to the police.In the phone book they also have hot-lines for abuse that are free and you don't have to give your name.Your local DHS office (department of human service) has a number you can report abuse and not give your name.If she is being abuse the authorities will take your cousin to the hospital and see if she is being abused.It's not up to you to know whether or not she is telling the truth but it is up to you to report any type of abuse. Your local telephone directory should have a list of numbers to report abuse cases without giving your name.
2006-12-19 08:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl4300 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is plenty that can be done, tell school councellor, report it to the police, tape it and let her mother hear it (thats really great evidence to get him convicted), I really hope that something gets done ASAP, Please help your cousin this should NOT be happening, you might be her only help in this situation, because if her mother does not beleive her. Her mother should be shot for not listening to her child especially about something like this what a selfish, nasty dog.
2006-12-19 11:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE COULD CALL THE CHILDRENS HELP LINE.
WHAT SHE SHOULD DO IS TELL AN ADULT, A TEACHER, PRINCIPAL, NEIGHBOUR.
AS SOON AS IT HAPPENS SHE HAS TO TELL SOME ONE.
WHY DON'T YOU CALL THE CHILDRNS AID SOCIETY, DON'T GIVE YOUR NAME IF YOU DON'T WANT TO , BUT TELL THEM WHATS GOING ON THEY WILL TAKE HER OUT OF THERE AND INVESTIGATE. IF THE SITUATION IS BAD THEY WILL PUT HIM IN JAIL.
HE CAN'T HURT HER ANYMORE.
DON'T WAIT FOR HER TO SAY SOMETHING ,DO IT FOR HER, SHE MIGHT NOT BE STRONG ENOUGH OT DO IT, OR TOO SCARED.
YOU HAVE TO LET HER KNOW YOU BELIEVE HER ,AND CARE
IT WOULD BE A GREAT XMAS GIFT TO HELP HER GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION.
IT WOULD BE A FRESH NEW START FOR HER LIFE!
TELL HER TALK TALK TALK TELL HER STOY TO ANYONE SHE CAN.
SOMEONE WILL DO SOMETHING TO HELP.
CALL THIS # 911
OR CALL CAS
MERRY XMAS ALSO TELL HER WHEN HE COMES NEAR HER TO SCREAM HER HEAD OFF HER MOM WILL HEAR IT AND COME RUNNING, THEN SHE WILL SEE FOR HERSELF SHE WILL CATCH HIM IN THE ACT.
THEN HER MOM CAN BE A WITNESS, AND THEIR RELATIONSHIP WILL GROW.
MOM AND DAUGHTER I MEAN.
2006-12-19 11:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by celestialangel43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell some body go to school tell the consulors tell the dean tell the fireman tell everybody. abusers don't like people to know who they are even if your scare tell some body thats the onlyway to stop him. i wish i lived close i'd help you getthe word out.sometimes mothers don't know and some times they just don't want to face it but you must tell or it will never stop.and it can mess up your life later down the line .so don't be scare tell i'm with you all the way.it almost happen to me but i told. and i got out.
2006-12-19 08:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by Willie F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she should talk to a school counsler.Then counsler might tell child services to help your cousin.They might take her to a foster family but she will be better with a new family.Her step father will go to jail.
2006-12-19 08:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by ?kOnFuZeD? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if her mother doesn't believe her to go and tell a teacher, a social worker or a student counselor. She should do it as soon as possible. Her stepfather should be in jail.
2006-12-19 09:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by teresita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police on him. Right now, Dial 911.
2006-12-19 08:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋