Hi I met a guy online feb this year we started to each other and have continued since managing so far every month to see we also talk every single night on phone for quite long periods .I keep on repatedly fidning him on dating sights,gay ,straight,tvs,cds,tgs.etc.I have a way of finding this information out wont go into that here but I always find it out when hes joined them.This is tearing me apart,making me ill,he professes his love for me but im not a stupid kid how the hell can he if hes doing this to me id told him time after time after time how much this hurts me and that its deceitful,dishonest and I actually doubt his sexuality and that frightens me in case ive caught something from him.I also do not believe a word this man tells me simply because of all of the above,What i cant understand is hes so generous and stuff and when we are together its brill we get on fine .Its wearing me down bigtime and I really cannt take much more id like other opinions on this matter jazzy
2006-12-19 08:14:18 · 10 answers · asked by JADE B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you have trust issues and that he's got some desires that you aren't satisfying. I'm not saying thats your fault but perhaps the pair of you haven't properly discussed his "fantasies".
2006-12-19 08:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Cynical_Si 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel that you would be much better off letting him go. Esp as he knows how much you finding him on these other sites is hurting you and yet he carries on. It doesn't always matter how much a person tells you that they love you; actions speak louder than words and deceit isnt acceptable in any sort of relationship. If you cant trust him, you can't be with him especially as its making you feel ill. I'd dump him fast if I were you and steer clear from internet dating of any kind. Trust me, its caused me no end of grief over the years!
2006-12-19 08:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to move on. If you have told him how you feel and that it hurts you and he continues, then he does not care for you like you do him. How will you ever really know what he does when he is not with you? You need to find someone else who will return your feelings 100% and respect you. Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for.
2006-12-19 08:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he does give it up you will always be wondering if he really has. Time to make a clean break i think, it wil save a lot of hurt in the long run. If he really cared about you he wouldn't lie to you about it in the first place.
2006-12-19 08:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by L D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you are very lucky to have found all this out,rather than give him a chance to say it was just a bit of fun print out all the details,your playing with fire don't let your self get burnt
2006-12-19 08:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he believe (or if he does believe, care) that it is hurting you if you keep on going back to him.
He does not appear to be sufficiently mature for a serious relatioinship.
And you obviously (and apparently with reason) do not trust him or you would not keep checking on him.
You would be better to call it a day.
2006-12-19 08:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's addicted to dating and/or porn sites. In my book, a relationship is all about trust. Without that, it's going nowhere.
Give him one more chance. Explain it all to him, tell him if he doesn't sort himself out, you might want to break it off. That might shock him in to taking action. If not, dump him. There's plenty more fish in the sea (before overfishing, anyway).
2006-12-19 08:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior probably will not change just because you want it to. Go to Yahoo Singles and find someone who is more tuned in to your values. That's where I met my husband.
2006-12-19 08:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a freaky, sexually confused predator. Don't talk to him anymore! And for god's sake, get tested for STD's!!! ASAP
2006-12-19 08:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by sassy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you have SEX on line
2006-12-19 08:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by colin050659 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋