The groomsmen have been selected for my brothers wedding and now my cousin wants to be part of it. He's a lot younger than us and the groomsmen that have been selected have a much closer relationship.
With that being said, this cousin has caused some faily drama and it seems as though parents are getting involved, if not already. I'm scared he might do the samething with me, since my wedding is in a couple of months and I haven't selected him to be part of the wedding.. but I think the most important thing is him and his family will continue to make this an issue till my brothers wedding and further on.. any suggestions on shutting him up?
2006-12-19 08:06:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd have a civilized discussion with him before the wedding to get a feel for where he stands. If heathenous, he should not be included. If proper, then perhaps he'd be allotted another chance. A wedding is a very important event and I'd make it clear to him as well as his parents perhaps that there was to be no misplay. If there is an incident, I'd disown him as a family member.
2006-12-19 08:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duct tape and strong rope? JK. You need to let him know that while you are happy he wants to be a groomsman in your (or your brother's) wedding the pistons have already been filled, the money spent, etc, etc. And then try to find him a spot in another part of the wedding, say guest book, or making sure everyone has their birdseed, rice, bubbles (or whatever) that people will throw after the wedding. Have him go around at the reception with a video camera, or book getting people to leave messages for the bride and groom. If you don't want to include him at all, tell him (politely) that there just aren't any more positions to be filled, and while this may make him unhappy it is your wedding and you make the final decision and someday, he may do the same when it is his wedding and leave it at that. No apologies, and hope that he and his parents will be adult about it and respect your decision.
2006-12-19 16:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's inappropriate. It's your wedding, not his. Do what you want to do. If him and his family want to get in the way, don't invite them. It's not like it's your parents or the bride's parents with the problem. It won't matter if they're not there.
Unless you WANT them to be there then just set him straight. Tell him to stop being a selfish jerk, it's not his decision and he is making what if supposed to be the happiest day of your life into a hassle. You don't need his crap so don't take it.
Hope everything works out and congratulations!
2006-12-19 16:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes be direct! let him know that this has already been decided and since the wedding is so close you dont have time to change the schedule now. And just flat out say NO becuase we dont need your drama here!
2006-12-19 16:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by tysexy25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him an usher or vallet LOL
2006-12-19 16:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋