My brother won't let go of the past and is taking everything out on my family. How can I help him focus for the future?
2006-12-19 08:06:04 · 9 answers · asked by Samantha Thompson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let me know the answer to this one.
2006-12-19 08:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by WUDDALIFE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would get him some self help books. Tell him if he lives in the past, he can't live his life today or tomorrow, because he will be trying to change what has happened. It is impossible, He can only put his efforts in trying to make the present better and not make the same mistakes...
He has to forgive himself of any wrong doing which might have caused the painful outcomes.....
He needs to believe in himself again and take steps to heal his soul. He should reconnect at church or spend time helping others who are needy. It will give him purpose and make him feel needed and important once again. Then maybe he can get on with his life. He must be willing to try......
2006-12-19 08:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could sit him down and tell him what he could have ahead of him in a few years or so... just make a prediction... see I kinda want to stay in the past and think of the good times I had with my dog because she has a diese and is about to die.
hope this advice helps!!
2006-12-19 08:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did something really terrible happen? you didn't explain a lot and it is hard to understand like what kinda past, girlfriend, a good friend, job, etc... I think that it depends on just how bad the "past was" and if it is letting go of someone that he loved a lot, well that is harder, because it is a lot of your own being. Good luck!
2006-12-19 08:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hvae the same problem with mine. I honestly dont know but I think the best way to approach it is to have a nice talk with him and find out what you can do to help him feel better.
2006-12-19 08:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by thatgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your brother should grow up and learn to take care of himself and its not going to do him any good if you fix things for him and help him focus on stuff that he should realize he needs to focus on himself.
2006-12-19 08:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by SWEETCAITY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there and this pain hes feeling won't go away oh time will only scumb the pain but the wounds won't heal.
2006-12-19 08:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy him a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. You should read it as well. In fact everyone in your family should read it.
2006-12-19 08:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant...he is the only one who can do it himself...
2006-12-19 08:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by sofiaa_k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋