I met this wonderful guy 5 months ago, we started out great and he expressed to me that he really liked me and was falling for me....I had been in one relationship before him..it was a long one, lasted a year..things didnt work out I was hurt...etc...So i tried my best to not catch any feelings for this person b.c i didnt want to get hurt....I had sex with him b/c i started falling in love with him, I dont do it with just anyone and it meant a lot to me when we did it. I started getting attached to him and all of a sudden he steps back...he tells me not to catch any feelings for him etc...I dont understand...why would you have sex with someone say all you say and than change your mind?....
2006-12-19 07:57:13 · 28 answers · asked by mariam_blah2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because that is how guys are and girls please stop saying you met this wonderfull guy and then say what he did it just makes you look bad and dump because if he was that wonderfull he wouldnt treat you that way now he got the sex he wants out please just take this as a learning experience and protect your own feelings dont talk to this guy nomore tell him you need your space and watch how he gona change and treat you better guys need to be treated like that for them to feel the same way they make you feel
2006-12-19 08:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As cynical as i would like to be and just say all (most) guys are jerks, it has to be remembered that guys are actually extremely complex and sometimes it can come down to the fact that they get scared. Maybe he has bad relationship history and the idea of loving someone scares the crap out of him. I had this happen to me a while back, we are awesome friends now but both of us were so scared of getting hurt we ended up hurting each other. At any rate i believe that no matter how scared someone is if they are the one for you then thats something they will work through to be with you. Chalk it up to experience and move on because there are plenty more cards in the deck...and some of them are aces!
2006-12-19 08:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by hotterthansnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant control who you love, you couldnt control that you fell for this guy and you had no control the last time. But it seems to me that this guy used you. If he told you about his feelings and then you had sex with him, then he decides to leave you. It seems like he thought the only way to get in to your pants was through your heart. And in most cases it works. To some people sex means nothing more than sex. It doesnt mean that they love you because they have sex with you even if thats what you want it to mean. And its good that you dont have sex with just anyone, but next time be more carefull. Guys will use any excuse to get into your pants. So dont do anything with him, except forget him. Guys like him need to grow up and wont be worth much as a boyfriend until they do. Good luck...
2006-12-19 08:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all peep have sex with someone because they are falling for them, or love them. Some people have sex with other people because they can. He could also have led you on until he got sex. I can't tell you what is on his mind. Feelings change in relationships and sometimes it comes from out of nowhere. If you know you want more from him then he seems to want, YOU need to back off because you can and will get hurt. You didnt do anything wrong..you and he just want different tihings at this time in your lives.
2006-12-19 08:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sex is the kicker...for some people at that point the "chase" is over and they lose interest...for others, they learn that there just isn't the chemistry there that they thought, and so interest dwindles...
Whatever the reason, if you two aren't on the same page then things aren't going to work out...if one person feels they are in love, and the other just isn't there then that's pretty much the end of the relationship...
2006-12-19 08:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have just said he had feelings to get the sex. I hope not, but it does happen. I was madly in love with a man for years, and he always told me he felt the same way but "the timing wasn't right". It took years to get over him, but I moved on and am happily married now. Your gentleman might have real feelings for you, but he could be scared. You should give it a week or two, and try to talk to him about your concerns. It really is the only way you'll ever know. Good luck!
2006-12-19 08:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy, we will at all times try and steal the booty and get away with no emotional cost. Sorry, guys someone has to tell these women. We try on different people because we are looking for enough elements of love before we make a long term commitment. But don't give up, there are alot guys capable of deep and meaningfull love. Hope it helps, Bob
2006-12-19 08:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bob B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first, this guy could have only wanted the sex. 2. if he didnt and did really like you maybe he just realized things werent ganna work out. Who knows maybe he could change his mind after a bit.
When u are inlove with someone but they dont fell the same its tough, but u gotta stay postiive and try to get on with u;r life. always remeber there are plenty more guys out there!
Good Luck!
2006-12-19 08:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. You deffinately should not be having sex with someone you barely know. To see if someone really loves you, don't give it up till they marry ya. That way if they leave or things don't work out, you'll know it wasn't for real. As for this guy, back off, see what happens. If he doesn't show interest anymore, keep yer head up and someone better will come along.
2006-12-19 08:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by flierchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you relationship? in simple terms bypass with it and spot what happens. in keeping with danger you're in simple terms feeling insacure and he does not comprehend wha tto do to make you comprehend. Or is he neglecting you? Is it in keeping with danger he's not spending sufficient time with you, doing issues for you. you comprehend, the kinds of issues that make you experience love. If time is going by, in keeping with danger a month, and you nevertheless experience the comparable, in keeping with danger question the relationship. yet while worst includes worst and you heavily do not think of he loves you, do not draw close onto him hoping his strategies will exchange, till he needs to be with you.
2016-12-30 16:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by mccloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋