My 2 Year old Son?

Question

My 2 year old son has been diagnosed with behavoir problems. I have know idea what to do. I have heard of children having this problem but have never heard anyone talk about what they do about it. My son has a really bad temper to and has a really hard time controling his anger and with a boy his size that isn't a good thing. He is on a screaming kick right now where he will scream at the top of his lungs as if someone is beating him. He was screaming so bad one night he scare his baby sister and she is only 2 months old. I am just looking for suggestions. Lets keep in mind he has specialists confused on what to do with him.

And please only serious answers

Answer 1

' There is a James Dobson book that I found helpful "The Difficult Child." It gives suggestions. You are going to spend an awful lot of personal energy trying to keep him in control while he learns self-control. Look into a homeopathic physician. They can give assistance without drugs.

Answer 2

I think we have all hear about the terrible two's. many children goes through this. Could be a little jealousy of the small child. If he is use to getting what he wants by screaming until he does, this is the habit he has gotten into. I assume he was a only child before the new baby, not hard to have their way all the time. If he continues to do this, might be a good idea to get some professional help for him. I do not think he is a bad child, he just need to know when to scream and when not to scream. Children's therapist are so good with children, it is worth the time to take the child.

Answer 3

He was the center of your world for 2 years and now he has to share you. He is feeling powerless and angry because he is not getting the attention that he once had. Make sure you take time everyday to show you're love. When baby is sleeping, read him a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), have him help you make a snack or dinner, and things that show he is the "big boy" (he can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby...getting a diaper, let him pick out baby's outfit...).

Temper tantrums are caused by children who are not getting their needs met. If they are not throwing a tantrum because they are ill, hungry, or tired, they will throw a tantrum because it feels powerful, they get attention for it, they are testing limits, or they are simply feeling frustrated.

Avoid punishing or threatening. When he throws a tantrum, do the unexpected. Either walk away or move him to a quiet place (his room, the couch) and say “When you are ready to calm down then you can come back.” Say nothing more than that. This is not a time out because you are not setting a time limit (you controlling him). He returns when he is ready to control himself. He could be getting even angrier because he feels you are trying to control him. You may have to return him to the designated spot before he gets the message. Keep it up!

The best way to discipline him would be to use logical or natural consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your son misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if he throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If he makes a mess, he cleans it. If he breaks a toy, he puts it in the trash. If he wants to scream, he gets put in an area where he can scream until he is ready to stop. Let the “punishment” fit the crime.

When he misbehaves tell him “I don’t like when you (explain what and why in very few words).” Put him in a quiet area away from you (his room, the couch). Tell him “When you are ready to (listen, be gentle, calm down…) then you can come back. This is not a time out because you are not giving him a time limit (you controlling him). He returns when he's ready to control himself. You may have to take him back to the spot a few times before he gets the message. Thank him when he is calm.

Empathize with you son when he is calm. “I can tell you are feeling (hurt, angry, left-out, frustrated, mad). How can I help you with that?” He will learn to express his feeling rather than throw a tantrum.

Notice him when he is not misbehaving by saying things like "You did that by yourself. Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on your picture!" Let him know that you notice him. This is a great way to show attention and love, build his confidence, and help him to feel powerful in a positive way.

Tell him that he is so lucky because he is a big brother (maybe even get him a big brother shirt). He can do so much more than a baby because he is older. If he keeps getting messages like these, he should start to feel more confident in his new world.

Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. Pick you battles! You can say “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Hope this helps! Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Let him know when you are happy with him like when he is doing good... Ask him to help around the house and tell him what a good boy he is when he does something right. I know it is hard but you have to be patient... Sometimes you want to scream back at him... but we all know you shouldn't do that. I have a 20 month old he loves to help out around the house, but he can throw fits too.. I try to ignore the fits and praise him when he's being good.. I hope this helps

Answer 5

oh my dear, just don't acknowledge that he has a problem in front of him. Most of the time kids tend to behave on the way they are expected to. i have been teaching kids for a while and in some i learned that they act they way you want them to act. let me give you an example, i had one student who used to fight with other kids and always complain in class. So she was known with that behavior so she keeps acting it. well one day i changed on her no matter what she does i keep telling her she is very good girl the more i tell her that the more she wanted to be a good girl. you know you are my favorite from class... just to fit with what i said. She changed completely its been a while now. so tell him positive things about himself. make him active on some thing else like buy him a keyboard(piano), panting so he can express what ever he has in him in art.
good luck

Answer 6

I would really focus on reinforcing his good behavior. When he's being a good boy tell him so, and when he does anything at all that's nice really give him a lot of attention for it. At this age a lot of behavior problems have to do with getting attention.

Answer 7

dont get affected by his screaming just ignore it and act as if you cannot hear a thing get everyone else to do the same if he does not get any reaction what so ever it may take a few loud days but it will work eventually. so just stay cool when he gets angry.

Answer 8

Get yourself some books on Behavior Modification. It works like magic, but its not, its good parenting. Do NOT put your child on drugs to change his behavior! He's not psychotic, he's not sick, he needs some training. You don't want him sedated, you want him HAPPY. He's little and the last thing he needs is strange chemicals changing the way his brain develops.

Answer 9

Give him something to scream at the top of his lungs about. Seriously, come on! 2-year-old son diagnosed with behavior problems?? He doesn't need specialists, counselors, etc., he needs some good old fashioned discipline!!

LOL @ all the "thumbs down"......I'm just saying what everybody else would like to say!!

Answer 10

dont do anything - treat him normaly.

ok it depends how bad his behavoural problems are.
i was told i had a small form but my parents didnt treat me any diffrently, and i grew up fine.

to many parents let their kids misbehavour because they have bevoural problems and thats the worst thing to do, he is still able to learn right from wrong and you should teach it to him