I have a 2 1/2 yr old grandson that my husband and I have been raising. He's lived w/us since his birth along w/ his mother, but care for him. A few days ago, she decided she wants to "play" mom. She making him stay up in thier apt w/ her now. Blocking the stairs so he can't get down to us. So, she been doing him to bed, my issue is -- he usually doesn't want to go to bed, but the 4 nights she put him to bed and he didn't make a sound and he slept all night, which isn't normal for him. The mom is having an issue w/ drinking alcohol and we believe she's giving it to him to get him to go to sleep and keep him asleep. I located his cup in the frig. w/ a drink that tasted like it had alcohol in it. If I say anything to her she will get upset because I was in her room. So, what should I do??
2006-12-19 07:54:38 · 21 answers · asked by tinksnana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should check with her. If you think it could be harmful to the baby then you have the right to. It's better you than child services! And then what will happen to the child!?!
2006-12-19 07:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Champagne115 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There’s always two sides of the store and we’re only hearing one. Are you just upset because your daughter has finally stepped up to care for her child? By placing the gate across the stairs so the child can not gain access to you tells me you and her have issues you need to resolve. And those issues will not be solved here on yahoo answers.
You say your daughter has a drinking problem and may be giving the child alcohol . If this is the case contact the father and let him know. Or contact a lawyer and discuss the situation. He may referrer you to child services. They will come in to the home and evaluate the mother and most liking do a drug and alcohol test on her.
Best of luck
2006-12-19 16:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of weather or not she will get upset if you confront her, you simply have to do it. If you suspect she is feeding the child alcohol this is a very serious matter. Alcohol to an infant can be fatal by repressing his young and delicate respiratory system or numbing his little brain so he forgets to breath while sleeping. It would only take a small amount to become dangerous.
If I were you I would be worried sick, so you are going to have to bite the bullet and confront her. Tell her the truth about the reason that you were in her room and what your suspicions are. So let her be mad! I hope that she comes to terms with her issues and seriously seeks some help. My thoughts are with you!
2006-12-19 16:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say it you guys need to have a candid heart to heart. Reiterate to her that is should be both of your goals to make sure he is being well taken care of and provided for well.
If all else fails, you should contact your local Child Protection Services. She definitely should not be giving that child alcohol. We must look out for the little ones. It is our duty.
I am sorry to hear you dealing with that. Sounds like your daughter could use some help of her own.
Good luck!!!
2006-12-19 15:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if she gets upset... if it's your house that she's living in then you have every right to go in that room and if she is giving that child alcohol to put him to sleep then you have every right and the responsibility to report her to the police and child services. What happens if she gives him too much and kills him... you would never be able to live with yourself for not doing something about it. You need to take care of this and you need to do it NOW. Good luck.
2006-12-19 15:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Wiked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's more important? Your grandson, or his mother getting upset? I wouldn't think twice. I would get help for my grandson. She can end up killing him! If you can't figure that out, you don't need to be around him either. Who CARES if she'll get upset? What the heck are you doing on Yahoo! Answers. Call Child services or something, immediately.
2006-12-19 16:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would somehow have the drink tested for alcohol and if it has any in it don't worry if she gets upset this is a serious issue and if shes giving him alcohol she should not be allowed to see him anymore.Good luck.
2006-12-19 15:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call child protective services anonymously. You can take him to the doctor for a routine check up or something if she'll let you. Tell the doctor. He has to report it if he finds that this is happening.
Whatever you decide to do, do it now. This is a very dangerous situation and its child abuse. If you are not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem.
2006-12-19 15:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Melli 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contact legal help about getting custody. She is endangering the child if she is giving it alcohol or other drugs, and alcohol is a drug. She also needs to get help to understand what she is doing to her child. Do Not Hesitate!! The baby's health and life may be in danger.
2006-12-19 16:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by debop44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops. Ask him if its possible to check his system for alcohol. Or take the cup in next time, tell them your fears, and see if they can analyze it for alcohol.
My husband said it will only show up in his system (breathilizer or blood test) for about an hour (if its a smaller amount). Otherwise they can't test for it. It won't show up in hair or the next morning. So if you even think it, I'd get the cops or CPS involved.
2006-12-19 15:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋