ok i am 19 i have been wanting a little girl sines i was 16 and it is get harder to wait, what do ya'll think?
2006-12-19 07:40:41 · 11 answers · asked by jordan 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
if you are 19, you should probobly wait. think about your reasons you want a kid....do you want someone to take care of? get a pet. do you need something to do? get a hobby. i'm just saying, take a step back and think about your reasons for wanting this child. you could also work in a daycare, or babysit to fill this need until you are emotionally and mentally able to give this child the life it needs, and the one you hopefully want it to have.
2006-12-19 07:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by purplemallkitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you just wait until you have lived a little more and were financially and emotionally stable to take care of a child? You didn't say if you were married (not that you have to be) or in a committed relationship. Do you have a job where you can support yourself financially (that means providing a place to live (not your parent's or grandparent's home), food for yourself, etc.)
Why have a baby now and then in a few years (hell maybe even months) be resentful because you missed out on clubbing or hanging out with your friends, or basically getting yourself together?
I was 28 when I got pregnant with my first child and 31 when I had my last. My husband and I don't feel the need to be out in the streets hanging or going partying, because we got that out of our systems before we had children. Now, we cannot wait to get home to spend quality time with them because there aren't enough hours in the day.
Why don't you wait so that you can have the wherewithall and the wisdom to appreciate the children you have for the gifts that they truely are?
And by the way, I wanted boys but had 2 girls and no sons. So don't think you are automatically going to be guaranteed a little girl because you want it.
2006-12-19 07:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just turned 20 and i am 12 weeks pregnant I have a great job i work for cingular Wireless, i graduated high school, and i am starting college even though it seems like i have my head on straight and headed in the right direction i still wish i could be married before i had my first baby i am going to be a single mom (the father is going to help but we just arent together) having a baby is something that you cant just WANT its something that needs to be thought about and plan it dont rush your life you are only 19 just make sure that you are REALLY ready and arent just bored with your life right now.
2006-12-19 08:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by ScubaGurl1986 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU DEFIANTLEY NEED TO WAIT!!! There is so much that you haven't thought about. 1. is the mother you have picked out ready to be a mature responsible mother? 2. Can you give up hanging out with your friends all night and weekend? are you ready to? 3. Do you have a steady job making decent money to take care of a baby? Doubtful since you are barely out of highschool. Babies take alot of money. 4. Are you still in college? if you are, going to school and being a parent and working are hard? Trust me I did it and I missed so much of my child's first year. 5. You said you wanted a girl? What if you get a boy? Things to think about. WAIT a few more years.
2006-12-19 08:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have the need to love and nurture someone, so that they will love and nurture ourselves. It is a lot harder than it looks!! Stand up, be proud of who you are, be good to yourself, and then you will find someone to create a better dream with. One that includes marriage and a mother and father together forever. It is great to set goals, and work hard to achieve them. The longer it takes you to achieve a goal, the more proud and with more respect you treat the outcome. Give your baby the best life possible! I am sure that you will make an amazing mother!!!
2006-12-19 07:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hurry to have a baby? You're only 19. Have you taken care of a baby for overnight to see how it really is? You should live life for awhile, see the world, have fun before you have a child or children.
2006-12-19 07:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by jordan_30241 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u are independed, hope u now what that means...work, maybe live by urself, n dont need from anyone to eat everyday, i think u could be ok to have a child. u just gotta find someone that feels as sure as u are about having kids. good luck!
2006-12-19 07:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a husband in the picture? Are you expecting your mother to raise your baby for you? Are you done having fun with your friends?
Please wait!!!!! You are still a baby yourself.
2006-12-19 10:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a little kid yourself that cant wait to open their presents from Santa. Little girls arent toys.
2006-12-19 07:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah... I hear it takes two. Is there someone else in the picture? And if so, is she ready?
2006-12-19 07:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋