i think i meet a great guy but i just get used by him, why is that?
2006-12-19 07:20:48 · 29 answers · asked by Kaitlyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because they can.. you let him so why not
2006-12-19 07:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by bajajunglemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a man or a guy always no when a girl in vulnerable. but u know what always hold up your standard you are letting you guard down and that why he is taking advantage of you.
2006-12-19 07:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by teddie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a 'great' guy is using you, he's really not that great, is he.
Not all guys will take advantage of girls. You need to look around. There are still decent guys out there -- perhaps, though, you're looking for them in the wrong places.
If, though, you allow yourself to be used, you have to begin wondering how you can improve your own self-image. Have pride in yourself and your companion will take pride in you.
Don't give up.
2006-12-19 07:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by garynjanice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's what guys do, at least the duche bag ones... guys play a game.. when they sense your vulnerability they use it to their advantage, and if the girl is not smart enough she gives in and winds up getting used... what you need to do is learn how to play the game just as well as the guys do.... so you need to learn how to stop showing your vulnerability, and stop letting guys in until you can trust them... then you need to learn not to give in to them, no matter how sweet, or perfect they may seem.. once you can trust them, and you know it for sure you can let your guard down, and hopefully then they won't hurt you..... and if they do, you can learn more and more about how sneaky guys can be, until you find the perfect guy.... .good luck and be careful
2006-12-19 07:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Gerri S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI!
I know its not easy, and it takes so much trusting in this game of Love. I know that all your experiences will make you a strong and wise. Its only a moment for you until you realign yourself and attract wonderful things. I guess you must know what hot is in order to understand cold, its kind of a self taught lesson. Somethings great ahead for you and its not too far away. It will take you by surprise so don't dwell on the experiences because you are always safe and always on the right path. I know that he is coming for you so smile and relax because its all going to be OK!!
Take good care,
Ant x
2006-12-19 07:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bacistocaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people (men and women) are users. They sense that people can be used and they do it. Why? Because they can.
I find it funny that people tend to meet the same kind of people over and over. If you get used by EVERY guy then you are making yourself available to abusive behavior (which users can detect).
2006-12-19 07:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are the same. Some are great long after you meet them. Just keep searching.
2006-12-19 07:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could say its a psychological problem, but then again maybe you're finding the wrong guys- not all guys are like that but you should get to know them longer before you date them- less heart break most often. Sorry, Good Luck
2006-12-19 07:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are good guys and bad guys. you have to know the difference. not all men are alike, keep searching but let this experience be a lesson to you so you won't be vulnerable again.
2006-12-19 07:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit giving in to them and make them chase you. If they do not chase then they are not interested. Some guys are jerks and some are not. You have to sort out the jerks. They are the ones that give up if its not easy. The good ones will wait until you are ready.
2006-12-19 07:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not "guys" that take advantage of girls shug!! Its "a*sholes" that take advantage of girls! You dont need someone like that anyway. Real men never take advantage of women.
2006-12-19 07:24:51 · answer #11 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋