ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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21 minutes ago
when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
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49 minutes ago
this is her latest message
hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!
<3 (name)
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2 days ago
i dont want to know what u people think i should do . .. just want to know what u think she is thinking
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25 minutes ago
this is the latest message i just got tonight
heyyyyyyy (name)....are you done not talking to me yet?? just wonderin if you wanted to hang out sometime or atleast come visit and see my house!! well please get back to me and let me know!! :)
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19 minutes ago
she just sent me another email saying that she wants me to come to her birthday party . .. now why would she want me to come if he is going to be there . . . it would only cause trouble and be really awkward on top of that
2006-12-19 07:14:42 · 13 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow. get a grip dude and block her from calling and when she does get ahold of you or drops by just be a man and tell her it's for the best that you two move on.
2006-12-19 07:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you both are going through this. She wants to check up on you to see youre still alive. I'm sure she still care about you but I'm not sure she still has feelings for you, there's a difference. From your question, seems like you are avoiding her, and that means that maybe youre still in love with her and you hate the other guy because he is with her. I would say, dont avoid her calls and just ask her straight out: What does she want. And dont hang up until she gives you a straight answer, but dont be mean, just be very straightforward. That way, you will know what her intentions are so you can definitely know what is going on with the all her texts and emails. Do find out if she has feelings for you or she cares about you (as a friend). Good luck in your search for answers.
2006-12-19 07:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Its me again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that she gets off seeing how she can control you. Sometimes women just like to see if they still "got it".
Don't give in to her games. But something in your additional details seems that you like the attention. Could it be a way of getting back at the "kid" you don't like??
She's pitting the two of you together. If you do decide to give in and go sniffing around her place you should go with a date. As a matter of fact, go with a really good female friend that she doesn't know and just fall all over each other. If she can see that you are ABLE to move on, her real feelings will show and you'll be in a better position to know what to do.
Good luck, but don't let her in and out of your space at will.
2006-12-19 07:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only playing mind games with you. We only want what we cant have. Keep giving her the cold shoulder and eventually she will move on to another target. Let me ask you this, how do you know that the 2 years (or so) that you were together she wasn't calling, emailing and texting the guy she dated before you?
The only reason she has invited you to this party is for the drama!
I WENT BACK AND READ YOUR OTHER QUESTIONS - FIRST YOU ACT AS THOUGH YOU ARE HER CURRENT BF, THEN YOU TURN IT SO YOU ARE HER EX. WHICH ARE YOU? MOVE ON AND ASK A DIFFERENT QUESTION - MOST IMPORTANTLY, GET OVER IT!
2006-12-19 07:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by BAJC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting this girl push you around? Listen, It hurts real bad when a girl dumps you. It's part of life. I want you to remember me when I tell you honestly, Forget about this chick, she is only playing games. I know you have a strong emotional attachment but if you make that attachment stronger than you are only opening yourself up for more hurt in the very near future. It is almost impossible to be friends after a break up. She intentionally picked a guy that would hurt you the most. It wont last with them either.
2006-12-19 07:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing game with you..
Your ex is just testing the water to find out whether you are still 'on' her.. Ignore her messages and tell her straight that you are busy and don't have time for her..
Find other good girl..
2006-12-19 07:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably rethinking why she broke up with you in the first place she most wonder how to get you back and you ignoring her and we womens just get more encourage to know why you not talking or responding she just wants you for now beause u are playing hard to get in her mind
2006-12-19 07:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o-k, like wow!! Look, either you still like her and want to be with her or you don't.It seems to me you do seeing that you seem to be waiting on her every next message.
So,If I was you and wanted her back I would text her or call her back and say the following: "look, I still have very deep feelings for you but you seem to be still with(name) and I am sorry but I don't and wont try to like him for you.SO, Its like this. Either you still love me too and want to get back together and drop that looser, or stay with him and quit texting me".
2006-12-19 07:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be having regret, or she needs to hold on to you and feel important still in your life. Let her go, keep your head up and keep moving on
2006-12-19 07:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she still likes you even though she is going out with the other cude or maybe she still likes you and is calling you and stuff and is going out with the dude just to make you jealos
2006-12-19 07:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by bfscoobydoo22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋