i dont want to many, im adopting!!! and i wanna adopt the most possible with out gping overboard!!!!
2006-12-19 07:11:15 · 24 answers · asked by katie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
depends on you i suppose. when you're ready adopt one child... if you can handle it physically, emotionally and financially and think you want more...adopt another! i'm sure you'll know when you're ready to stop!
2006-12-19 07:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by maccagirl64 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you even old enough to consider raising children? It's not at all like playing with a baby doll! Everyone is different, so your question is almost impossible to answer. Some people are financially and emotionally stable to have as many children as God blesses them with. Others are very easy going, have alot of patience, etc. I think before you begin "adopting", you need to work in the nursery of a daycare. Adoption is a wonderful option if you are doing it for the right reasons and not as if you are picking out a puppy from the pound. You need to get with other people in your area who have either adopted children or they have several. You need to tast what you are trying to bite off. Raising children takes years of love, dedication and commitment. You aren't allowed to change your mind.
2006-12-19 07:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Car Trouble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally you can only adopt one at a time, except sometimes twins etc. the desire to have kids is very normal and many of us want a lot.
I wanted ten or so, REALLY, only had 2, as it turns out that was probanly good for me. My daughter has 6 and another one the wway and she thrives on this!! Her husband makes exceedingly good money and she gets to be at home. That helps.
You need to make sure that you have the times for the number you want and as you are adopting the agency/state etc will determine resources required.
Remeber things like children requiring our time, andhaving it to give and the cost of day care education etc.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 07:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids and I stress a lot. Sometimes I babysit my 2 nieces also and 5 at a time isn't to bad but I'm glad to be able to give them back to there mommy. It's a lot of stress having 3 kids. You worry about them getting hurt, hating you for life, being happy, getting the best education etc. It's a lot to worry about. So I would say 3 is okay anymore and you'll have a heartattack at a young age LOL!
2006-12-19 07:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I want 5, but I am gonna make sure I can give my first enough attention before I make any bigger decisions. I am pregnant right now with my first and thought I was ready and am now hoping I am ready. I think that if you feel you can handle alot and give them the attention they deserve, then go for it. Just remember you might need to give more of yourself at first because if you adopt older children, they really need to know that they are loved.
2006-12-19 07:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be based on how much you can handle. My mom had four kids before she got divorced, and now we have another little one (making 5 at my dad's house and 3 at my mom's). It sometimes gets hard, with that many people. I'd say two or three, is a good number. But again, it's all on your personal preferences.
2006-12-19 07:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by jessi.swimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that really depends on you...and you will know when the time comes. You may have one kid and decide that is enough. You may have two and decide that you couldn't handle another. I have three and my hubby and I want at least one more. I say at least because four may be the limit of all we can handle, but won't know till we get there. It isn't just financially either, but emotionally, and the amount of time and anergy you have and are able to give. :-)
2006-12-19 07:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents had 3 and are still sane and we have all turned into upstanding citizens participating in our society.
i have some friends that have 3 and sometimes it seems a bit much.
my husband only wants 2 and i'm torn between 2 and 3, but that's b/c our first has been so awesome that i'm not opposed to having a bunch just like him!
just have one and see where that takes you:)
happy holidays!
2006-12-19 08:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the ages of the children you want to adopt if you want to adopt all of them at once. I think 4 would be plenty as long as they are not all newborns that would be hard i think
2006-12-19 07:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by lizjaclyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd have to take into consideration your level of tolerance, patience, income, size of home etc. Also, whether the child(ren) are going to be special needs or from an environment that has affected them (HIV/Crack addicted etc)
Then from there...you can probably determine just how many children are suitable for you. Sometimes having one child proves to be enough, for others, 23 isn't enough! All depends on you and your situation.
2006-12-19 07:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 right now.And we are thinking in maybe in 2 years trying for # 4.Then we will be done.
But adoption is expensive.If you could afford it I would say 2.best of luck
2006-12-19 08:49:34 · answer #11 · answered by ♥AsH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋