My daughter will be 1 year old in Feburary. I am very excited to through her a party. I also have a son who will be celebrating his third birthday in March but the last 2 birthdays his grandparents (my in-laws) showed up with their own booze. How do I tell them i want an alcohol free birthdays this year. It soooo imbarasing when they can't handle them selves around company. It's a child birthday party for crying out loud. I wish they would leave the booze at home. It's not like my husband and I don't drink but there is a time and place for it. They are great people so I don't want to hurt their feelings. Any advice out there?
2006-12-19 07:01:12 · 15 answers · asked by Mrs B 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well, my father in law is an alcoholic. He has started fights and created many other problems at family get-togethers. When my husband and I had our first child, we flat out told him he was not welcome if he couldn't come sober. We left it up to him, whether he wanted to see his grand children grow up or not. He has chosen to be there, without the alcohol, and it has been wonderful. He is really close with both of our children now. You need to be firm, because this is a special occasion for your daughter. They just need to know where you stand whether it hurts their feelings or not.
2006-12-19 07:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by brocsangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them honestly how you feel about them bringing alcohol to family gatherings. You don't appreciate it, you don't find it appropriate and tell them that if they can't leave the booze at home then they are not welcome to come and you and your husband need to be a united front on this. Or, you could throw their parties in a public place (rent a hall, go to a restaurant, etc.) where they will not be able to bring in their own alcohol. It may cost you a bit more, but if you don't want to out right confront them about it this is one avenue that you could take.
2006-12-19 08:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should say it just like that..."This will be a alcohol free children's party." Let them know that they are welcome to come, but must leave the booze at home. I think you are 100% right on with this and they should have known better in the first place. They are the ones being rude here,not you. Don't feel bad about telling them how is going to be!!
2006-12-19 07:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you need to make sure your husband backs you up on this. Then you need to poliety and yet firmly let them know that you are expecting a child friendly alcohol free party. Offer another time when they can come for dinner or something and you can be more "relaxed" Just tell them you dont feel that it is the appropriate time and place to have a few drinks.
Good Luck
2006-12-19 07:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hosting the party in your home you have every right to ask your guests to respect your wishes. With the invitation you can say that non-alcoholic beverages will be provided and you do not want alcohol at your child's party. Make sure you have a variety of beverages so everyone can find something they will drink.
2006-12-19 07:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems with my son on his hockey team. We always have to plan parties at places where the parents can get thier alcohol.
I agree with you - there is a tome and place for alcohol and a child's party is not one of them.
tell your in laws exactly that. It's a party for kids and you will not allow alcohol/ End of story.
Ask your husband to support you on this important issue. We need to teach our kids NOW that you don't need alcohol to have a good time.
2006-12-19 07:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband politly tell them that this year you both are requesting that no alcohol be brought to the kids birthday parties. He can mention that he is just making calls letting everyone know that as to not single his parents out. Most likely that will be enough and if done nicely then it wont hurt their feelings. Good Luck
2006-12-19 07:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that THEY are invited but the booze isn't. If they have to bring the booze they might as well not come. It is YOUR home and YOUR child's birthday you have the right to decide what comes into your home.
2006-12-19 13:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe insteed of doing the party at your house you can have it where they can't bring alcohol. I don't know where your located but if its somewhere warm I would sugjest doing it at a park. Maybe you can just let your inlaws know that you won't be allowing alcohol because you have invited other children and you don't feel alcohol is aproriate.
2006-12-19 09:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have it outside the home. Can't really bring the brew to Chuckie Cheese or Mc Donald's play land.
2006-12-19 14:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋