I have this girlfriend who enjoys sneaking into my cellphone at all hours of the night to "find" other numbers or pictures.... Problem is: I have a friend who will take pictures and send them as a text/pic message... after she sneaks into my phone, I am faced with non stop b-ing... HELP!
2006-12-19 06:55:25 · 25 answers · asked by hrfrontman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe if she caught you cheating on her in the past, this is understandable because she doesn't trust you and is afraid you are going to cheat again. But if you have never done anything like that, her behavior is a bit psycho. She was probably cheated on in the past and hasn't gotten over it. Anyway, tell her she needs to trust you, you can't have a r/ship without trust, and if she can't trust you, you probably need to rethink the r/ship.
2006-12-19 07:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, she would only do it if she didn't trust you. And apparently she has a reason not to trust you. What's up with the pics?? As a woman I would do the same thing because you are not being truthful. Tell the "friend" to stop sending you pics because it's disrespectful to your girl, or find a new friend if she can't understand that...or if she's more than that then you have a decision to make.
2006-12-19 07:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just a girlfriend that's creepy, if she was a wife or long term live-in I see no problem with it, you shouldn't really have secrets any way. Though the obvious lack of trust ain't so good. I would tell your "friend" to stop sending pics that get you into trouble. Or lock your phone with password (many have that feature). Though this will probaly lead to more bitc*ing.
2006-12-19 07:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's okay for a girl/boy friend to sneak into your cell phone or anything else. There are boundaries. Although, if you didn't have anything to hide than you wouldn't mind them taking a little peek every now and then.
2006-12-19 07:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Candie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her that it's your personal cell phone. If there is a trust issue then maybe you two don't need to be with each other because it will only get worse as in looking through your mail, drawers etc. You don't want Nancy Drew you want a relationship.
2006-12-19 07:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her, talk to her about how it makes you feel. Maybe tell her you don't feel trusted and that she should trust you and what's on your phone. Explain to her about your friend and the pics sent, if its that much of a bother to her tell your friend not to send them- depending on their appropriateness. This issue will not be a quick fix because, for some, loyalty and trust is something earned and not given. Keep your patients and "wits about you", she'll grow out of this distrusting stage. Good luck
2006-12-19 07:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... 1 - quit letting your friend use your phone 2- Her creeping through your phone shows that she doesnt trust you ( relationships must have trust ) If she really trusted you then she wouldnt go through your phone all the time, its kinda like she is looking for a reason to cause some drama! My girl was like that for alittle while, but she grew up!! sounds like she needs to grow up alittle!
2006-12-19 07:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Are you doing something to make her suspicious? If you have acted in a trustworthy manner, she should trust you. If you are acting secretive and have unaccounted time, or are messing around on her, then she may be suspicious and motivated to snoop. I don't get snoopy unless I have a reason. Are you giving her a reason?
2006-12-19 07:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's okay. I believe it is an invasion of privacy but boyfriends, husbands, wives,. girlfriends and the like do it. So the only thing you can do is make sure you lock your phone at night so she can't get in it.
2006-12-19 06:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just hand her your phone and tell her to look all she likes and that you got nothing to hide
this will take all the enjoyment out of it
also tell her you cannot control what your friend sends to you and if she dont like it then she should quit looking
sounds like she has some real control issues
dude you have my pity
2006-12-19 07:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Josephus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋