His family does not acknowledge gifts (phone, e-mail, written) for formal or casual occasions. Now we've been invited/obligated to my husband's nephew's 2nd wedding next Weds. Dec 27th at 5pm. The nephew lives about 10-12 hours away but is getting married here. (My husband's brother called and told us about it last night.) And we get to bring a covered dish to help at the reception. I met this nephew once briefly and he and my husband aren't particularly close. Are we obligated to go? Do I have to bring food? A gift? This is already getting old - they've don't give my kids presents nor did they give us wedding gifts or a baby gift for our 11 month old son. My husband said he'd never heard of acknowledging gifts with thank you notes. My husband is paid hourly and will miss work if he goes. I don't want to drive 30-45min to this church in the late afternoon with 4 kids under age 10, esp. alone. I have no interest in attending but I think his family already dislikes me. What to do??????
2006-12-19 06:52:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Easy you don't go. That is way too short a notice to put those kind of plans into motion considering the problems you have already had with them.
2006-12-19 06:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Joey R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the wedding is close to your home, go, bring food and a small gift. It's easier to be a good sport than to live down a family drama of not showing up. Your husband's family is grossly lacking in manners, but they're probably the type to hold a grudge for years if you don't show up. Your husband needs to take time off work and be there, too.
2006-12-19 06:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindly decline, and let them know you had already made plans for this day. It happens. You're not obligated to go.
2006-12-19 07:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not waist any of your time. They obviously do not think anything of your family. Don't go and don't worry about it enjoy your Christmas with your family
2006-12-19 06:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go, if they already hate you this is not going to make them like you. Why go some where and don't feel confrontable..they never give you s**t anyway,and now you suppose to jump when they call.................PLEASE.
2006-12-19 07:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by queenmeplse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband doesn't go, you DEF aren't obligated
2006-12-19 06:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always write thank u's! I wouldn't go.
2006-12-19 07:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋