so we broke up like 3 months ago like a 3 year relationship, im still not completely over her yet.....should i get another gf or should i just wait. we tried the whole friend thing but everytime we talk she just says we need time..and space er whatever its really pointless to me now..but i still kinda care about her and if she says she wants to be friends in the future, but its dumb to me now, if i get another gf i dont think she would care but is it good for me? and should i still try to be friends with her in the future or should i just do what she does to me and ignore her?
2006-12-19 06:36:13 · 14 answers · asked by ChalkBoard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on and forget about it.
2006-12-19 06:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you do whatever you think is in your own best interests. You have a greater responsibility to yourself than you do to her at this point. If it helps to discontinue communications or rid yourself of reminders of her and your relationship with her I see nothing wrong with that. It's understandable that your seperation after such a long standing relationship would be painful as you are only human. You seem wise to realize that the breakup still has an impact on you and to be hesitant to jump into a new relationship until you've had time to heal. But if you find someone interesting to date it could help you move on. The problem is that you really won't be distracted by a new girl unless it's someone that really gets your attention. Good Luck
2006-12-19 14:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to put her in the past, and move on with your life. Someday, maybe, when you are both free of these residual romantic feelings, you can be friends again. But for now you should focus on your own healing and growth.
Spend some time figuring out what you really want in a girlfriend - what characteristics are you usually drawn to, what fits your life right now. Then start looking for that type of woman, and start dating again. Don't compare your new dates to your old flame, and be honest with them and with yourself.
good luck!
2006-12-19 14:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do whatever it is that makes you happy. i know that sounds cliche but its the truth. the whole idea behind a relationship is to be happy. so if you werent both happy in the relationship, its over. if your not both completely satisfied with where things are at now, then you need to do something to make it so that your happier with it. if what you do makes her upset, she should let you know, either with her words and/or actions or lack thereof. if she doesnt say anything to you about it but you sense that shes not happy with the changes you made, but you still want to be friends with her and make her happy then you need to talk to her. DO NOT sacrifice your happiness for her. the only people you do that for is your children and your spouse. you need to find happy ground with it.
2006-12-19 14:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by jimbo 12606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for another girlfriend. You shouldn't be try start another relationship now. Go out and date a couple people. Enjoy life being single. Forget your ex
2006-12-19 14:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say wait until she comes to you. if she is ignoring you then you shouldn't try to force her to talk. just wait until she approaches you. as for you getting another girlfriend. maybe you should find friends first. get to know another girl. if your not completely over your ex, you don't want to give other girls the impression that you are dating them on the rebound. hope this helps. good luck
2006-12-19 14:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by smileygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is saying that you guys can be friends but ignores you, that's not exactly being friends. Not very mature either. Move on but be sure that you're ready to because you wouldn't want to meet someone new but turn back around to your ex. I wouldn't understand why you would after she's ignored you.
2006-12-19 14:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should wait until u feel that u can move on and if u stay friends with her it is bc u want to and like hanging out with her not bc she said u needed more space. good luck
2006-12-19 14:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by shy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!My opinion,be man and break out with her!If,she told you need space and time,its sure,she don´t care to much!Wish you well and be strong!
2006-12-19 14:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by mandycryss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO! It's over and it's time to move on. If you know other girls start dating. Don't just stick with one until you know it's the right one.
No, you don't need a Friend which was your formal girl friend. She will sabotage every girl you date. Just move on. Get over her. She's not the one for you.
2006-12-19 14:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
my best friend broke up with her boyfriend,she said she will wait 6 months...many things can happen!good luck!
2006-12-19 15:16:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋