My son screams his head off when I even go to the restroom.?

Question

I understand he is 9months but I cant afford staying out of work much longer.

Answer 1

Babies cry (and scream) that is what they do. Yes it makes him unhappy to see you go or not to be around you, but he will survive and so will you. It is heart breaking to hear that scream of terror coming from your little one, knowing that if you just pick him up you can stop it and make him feel all better. That isn't always the best thing for them though. Although I am a stay at home mom I do understand your issue. As long as you feel comfortable with who you are leaving your child with, drop him off and leave. The day care provider will take care of you little one and if they have any problems they will contact you. In my experience children usually calm down within about 5 minutes after the parents leave and have a perfectly wonderful day.

I understand it is hard, but they cry, we can't fix everything.

I say all this only to add: if you feel your little one is carrying on in a way that is not in his character and think there may be something behind the fits and crying go with your gut feeling and don't leave him just yet. You will have to find something else. Good Morning America just had a segment about home based businesses. The ones they had on were customer service phone operators that could work from home. Willow, LiveOps and Alpine Access were the ones they had featured and said they were legit and not scam companies. Something to look into so you can work from home.

Answer 2

I have 5 kids and I agree with the single father. Let him throw his fit and get over it. Do not give in to him. He will eventually give up and quit crying. It will not happen overnight though. And if you put him in Daycare he will probably start crying all over again and he will probably make you cry because you are not ready to let him go. But just remember that he will be extra happy to see you at the end of your work day. And most daycare workers know how to handle seperation anxiety.

Answer 3

my son did right around the time he was 9 months old and i would drop him off at daycare (he had been going there since 8 weeks old) then when he turned 9 months old he would really freak out. there is something about that age that they have real separation anxiety, his daycare provider said he was fine like 5 minutes after 1 was gone, she just had to distract him. you should think about putting him in daycare maybe just to give yourself a break and so he can learn other people can take care of him.........trust me you want other people to help you because everyone needs a break!

Answer 4

I have 2 kids myself and I'm a single father so I know what I'm talking about. He throws a fit put him in his crib. It's a safe place. So you can let him scream all he wants. The most I left my boy in the crib was 45 min. BIG BIG fit. Leave him there 'till he stops then go see him. NOT before...again...NOT BEFORE. He will associate being quiet with being with his mother. If every time he throws a fit you pick him up them associates a fit with being in his mother arms. SO don't. IT WILL BE HARD. But it pays off at the end. Pay it forward.

Answer 5

It's hard at first, seems your son might be more attached than the average baby. I would start by taking him to daycare half days, then work up to a full day.

Answer 6

Woah baby, 9 months?

Answer 7

youre going to have to get him used to being without you. try leaving him with some friends for a couple hours at a time...

Answer 8

Okay, I will be blunt, but, leave him at a daycare, they can deal with it and he needs to learn that, your not going to be there for him all the time.

Answer 9

SEPERATION ANXIETY IS NORMAL! You are not a bad parent because your child cries. It will pass, just don't go over the edge!