Should I wait for my boyfriend of three months to say I love you first?

Question

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 almost three months, and I'm wondering if it's too early to tell him I love him, or if I should wait for him to tell me first.

We talk every day on the phone, see each other twice a week, make each other laugh, we even exchanged Hanukkah presents! I also know he's not seeing anybody else (and neither am I), and we've also talked about personal stuff together like family trauma. Plus he has saved every single email from me.

Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!

Answer 1

Follow your heart. If you feel the time is right, tell him.

Answer 2

Do u love him?? its not only about exchanging gifts and saving emails or counting how many times u see each other....that is not what love is.. Love is something thats much more deeper n there cant be a specific amount of time placed on when u start loving the other person...Also, its not a competition on who says it first...if u really feel that u love him tell him...who cares if he tells u first...when ur in a relationship theres no competition or race between u two...
Hope this helped...

Answer 3

No, you should wait until you really do feel like you love him. There is no precise time period you should wait (unless you've known him for thrity minutes and then say 'I Love You'). You should really pay attention to your feelings and not get caught up on whether you should wait or not, or whether he'll tell it back to yoou or not. If you feel like telling him first then go for it, and if he doesn't tell you anything in return, don't feel bad, some people take more time then others to feel the same, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't care for you. If he tells you first, don't feel obligated to say "i do as well" if you really don't. That's where problems begin to arise. Just be honest, and be confident if you do tell him and make sure you mean it above all else. :-D Happy Hannukkah

Answer 4

I really think you should talk to him about this. Do not come straight out and tell him that you are unsure of your feelings, but talk about your future together. Ask him what he plans on doing, where he is going to work, what he sees ahead of him in the future. If he does not give you a decent answer, he probably isn't thinking too much about it, just going with the flow. My friend is in the same boat right now and I told her that she should probably leave him if she cannot see it working out. A relationship is not going to last if they do not have the same ideas for the future.

Answer 5

hay babe better to be quiet for now , three months is too early to know some one. Maybe you have been very close,but but that does not mean that now you know each other.Listen to me
to know each other you have to experience a livein relationship.
At that particular time you will know whether u really love him and want to marry and produce babies ,whatever>

Answer 6

Dear I've been with mine for a year and a half and I'm still waiting. But I also told him I want him to say it when he really meant it. If things dont work out you wont be dissapointed.

Answer 7

If you tell him it could scare him away. A lot of guys don't like to hear those three words...especially at this point in a relationship.

Answer 8

If you really love him then you should tell him and if he loves you back then your good. Love can come at anytime so you can't base it on how long you have been dating. It's all about how you feel

Answer 9

i think you shouldnt tell him. because you never know maybe he dont love you like you do just yet. if he doesnt tell you by the 5th month then you should tell him. just try to wait for bit

Answer 10

I would wait until he says first. Man don't like woman to say i love you first. And if he doesn't say anything to you, that means he is not in love. Also, don't force him to say.