I've told a guy I knew for a really short time that I had feelings for him, just like that, straight out. I don't know why, I just knew it when I first saw him that I really like him. He first blushed then he was shocked for good 2 hours and he couldn't believe that i would ever like him. Later he said he had no feelings like that for me. Could it be that he was protecting himself? Because he's kind of nerd like and he said he usually protects himself from having feelings towards really pretty girls. I am pretty, but not empty headed, by the way, people say I am good-hearted girl.
2006-12-19 06:15:46 · 22 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may not be empty headed, but you certainly aren't smart.
You're just lucky that the boy you spoke to was honest enough about his feelings to tell you the truth. There are a lot of sharks out there that would have blinked, and told you that they have feelings for you too, then hustled you off to bed as fast as they could.
As to the boy--he was being honest with you. He has no feelings for you, in that way.
2006-12-19 06:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what his problem is. I don't know exactly how long "a really short time" is, so I don't know what to tell you. Some guys are afraid of that sort of thing, and some are not. When someone says something like they "just don't have feelings like that" for you, it is usually rejection. But . . . MAYBE . . . in this case, he MIGHT change his mind about you. Don't count on it, but don't completely give up yet. I mean . . . given the information, I think it would be worth a shot to get to know him better.
Men often make the same mistake you did. The feelings get so powerful that some will completely forget that the girl never noticed them before and doesn't know them well enough to think about liking them. Give him (or the next guy) a chance to get to know you and maybe go out with you a few times and try to judge the degree of his feelings for you before you expose your feelings like that.
Anyway, don't give up if this guy doesn't like you. Guys have to put up with a LOT of rejection, so you can put up with at least a little. Good luck!
2006-12-19 14:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Most of the Guys who gets Freeked Out Never Expect anyone Preety girl like U to say this to Them.. Or mayb Other reason is They Fear from their Family.. Mayb U shud Give him some Time.. & Ask him Once More.. This time i think he will Give u a Better answer..
2006-12-19 14:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Reasoner.. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you done said it he's a nerd of course he freaked out normal guys don't do that.And it depends on how you expressed yourself towards a guy also some girls say it in a way where it's scary like in a way where your saying your the only guy for me the only one.Thats when it's unatractive and pathetic.
2006-12-19 14:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by tino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. He protects himself. He probably really likesyou but he is telling himself that he's not good enough for a pretty girl like you. Just keep on him. Show him that you like him and that you are interested in the things he likes. show him your brain and be patient. He likes you but it's going o take him awhile to believe that you really like him and that he is good enough for you.
Good Luck
2006-12-19 14:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ace Meridian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well good for you girl it sounds like you've found a suiter. But well why he did what he did maybe you should ask him. I think guys freak out because maybe we wanted to tell you our feelings for you first but you beat us to it and we're well shocked kinda. That or we're so suprised you leave us speechless. Um I hear it happens to girls as well when the guy drops the I like you bomb on her. True?
2006-12-19 14:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he freaked out because it is the male instinct to go after the girl...and you treated him like if he were the girl and you the guy....men like to be the hunters....not the hunted....if you liked him, there were plenty of things you could have done to let him know you liked him....like just gave him good eye contact and always smiled at him...
atleast now you know for future guys
2006-12-19 14:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey. He seems to be on the shy side. So just give him time. I have a good feeling that he really does like you & he's just afraid to tell you. Eventually he'll open up to you. For now, just live life normally. Don't pressure him.
2006-12-19 14:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by LOSTinLOVEchick (: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they freak out because they don't know if it's a good thing or bad thing and if this guy doesnt have experience like you said he is a nerd he might be scared you are trying to either use him or mess with him...
just keep showing him that you are still going to be his friend even though he doesnt have feelings for you.... don't act different with him and just be urself don't try to make him like you...just be natural!
2006-12-19 14:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most people think when someone likes them, that they have an obligation to live up to their expectations. If you're going to tell him that you like him, make it clear that he's got no obligation to you. It's not easy, mind you. But it's a less-intimidating approach. Good luck.
2006-12-19 14:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by flip4it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋