Should I tell her how I feel? I'm not sure if she still has feelings for me.?

Question

Ok well me and my ex went out for almost a year, and one day she broke up with me, saying she didn't like me, and we should be friends. Well I loved her to death, and it was really hard to take. She went out with about 4 guys, and it seems that she was trying to find what we had, but couldn't all of her dates were jerks. Now I never mistreated her, and did everything I could sto show I loved her. We talk once in a while, and she seems to be really happy when she talks to me. She always refers to things that happened during our relationship as good times. I know alot of girls like me and i wonder why she wouldn't want to date me again, and well the guys she goes out with aren't that great looking/are jerks. So basically, there is a small chance that she still has feelings for me. I'm not sure if I should tell her how I feel, the embarassment factor always gets to me. It's been about 6 months, and It's only gotten worse, I still love her just as much as the day she broke up with me.

Answer 1

You need to decide what it is that you want, do you want to be back with your ex or is the embarassment more important to you? You can't have both, unfortunately. If you really want to be with her then you need to talk to her and see what reaction you get. Out of the blue send her flowers that say I'm thinking of you (not roses). I'm sure you know why she broke up with you so you need to first start by apologizing for doing or saying whatever it was that you did or said. That's not saying that you were wrong it's you admitting that the break up was partially your fault because you did nothing to prevent it from happening. At this point the only thing you can do it put your heart on the line and stop thinking that you'll be embarassed. Things will turn out badly for you if you have that negative thinking. Think positive and hope for the best. I wish you lots of luck because it sounds like you really want to be with her but you're more concerned about your ego and embarassment to go get your girl back.

Answer 2

If you really love this girl then I think it is time to stop waiting to tell her you have feelings for her and let her know how you feel eventhough you are embarrassed to tell her. The longer you wait the worse it will get and harder it will be. It might seem like it will be harder to get across to her at first your interest in her but she will appreciate your honesty. Once she has a chance to think about what you have said find out what she thought and if it is worth giving it another shot, but you won't know until you try and you have made the effort. Maybe you can help get over her fear of dating you and take it slow if she agrees to go back out with you. Don't push her into it let her do some of the work herself. She willprbably be glad that you shared your thoughts with her and it might make her take interest in your more.

Answer 3

Just sit down and talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel about her. Us women love to here it! But if you are saying that alot of girls like you and want to go out with you, are you sure that those girls aren't the ones who interfeared in your relationship in the first place? You know girls can be "caddy." If you let her know how many girls you could have and if you are looking and staring at them all the time when your out with her, it's gonna turn her away. Not saying that it is what you do, but that would be a reason for her leaving.

Answer 4

It seems to me that she may have gotten scared of the relationship and needed some time to herself. One day you will decide whether or not the embarrassment is worth telling her your feelings. Years from now, will you regret never telling her.... or will you be glad you finally got the truth?

Answer 5

she doesnt know what she wants and you sound like a great guy so tell her how you feel and if she dont feel the same way then your gonna have to move on

Answer 6

no leave her alone find someone else