What's up with my live in boyfriend of 6 months still checking out other girls when he's out alone or with me? We're in our thirties and he says that it's just because he's a man and not dead, but I know I'm not as pretty as the girls he's checking out - although I'm a very attractive woman. He's still adding girls to his myspace page too... but he never hooks up with them. He also thinks it's ok to flirt with someone or lead them to believe he's available if he thinks they can help him get a job. Should I be worried?
2006-12-19 06:10:11 · 22 answers · asked by kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh, sweety i would kick him to the curb, would he like it if you were flirting with other men just for fun , i don't think he would , look if ur together, than ur together, if ur not ur not , maybe you should ask him what defines a relationship in his eyes because i think he sounds like an idiot.
2006-12-19 06:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by naughty eyes 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the words of Snoop Dogg I never thought I'd say this Drop Him Like he's Hot. Just kidding if it seriously concerns you tell him he needs to stop and explain why. Would I put up with it HELLNO but some guys believe i'm a man I have to look. So maybe you should start returning the favor. That's what I did and that behavior has been nonexistent for over a year now.
2006-12-19 06:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like he is a natural born flirt. I would not worry. Like he said he's not dead. When you go shopping you look at pretty things right? No different with people. As long as he's window shopping only and not buying into anything, let it go, when you go out do you not ever see good looking guys or women who are pretty and you can't help but look, its only human nature to look. If he looks while with you, that is good, he's not hiding it from you. I have seen men who did it bad when girlfriends or wives were not with them but when wife or girlfriend was around they didn't look at all. That is not a trustworthy person. Don't try to change someone. The only person you can change is you. Good luck
2006-12-19 06:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't going to stop. Guys look at other girls even when they are "old" (whatever the individual considers old). I think in some people (I have friends this way) that it is a personality trait to be overly flirty. They are still devoted and madly in love with their bf or spouse, but they just have a personality to talk to other people in a flirtatious manner. I wouldn't be worried in the least just talk to him about it and get a feel for it. Find out if you think this is just a personality thing. Trust me you can tell.
2006-12-19 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You should definetly be worried! This man is in his THIRTIES and he's still acting like a horny teenager. He needs to just mature & settle down. He has you & that's all he needs. If you want to get even, I suggest you turn the tables on him. Give him a taste of his own medicine. You should start fliriting w/ guys & act the way he does towards other girls. Then we'll see who gets jealous & if he starts complaining, tell him to suck it up & stop being a hypocrite! But if you want to handle this the mature, adult way. Then talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel...
2006-12-19 06:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by LOSTinLOVEchick (: 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys look at other girls, anyone who says they're just "wired that way" is trying to justify their actions. I think Myspace is pretty lame to begin with, and he definitely shouldn't be flirting with other girls...even if he's just doing it to get a job.
It sounds like you have bigger problems than the fact that he doesn't have enough respect for you to not check out other girls - are you supporting him while he is unemployed??
2006-12-19 06:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your 30 year old BF has a Myspace? Looser! The only reason that someone that age has one of those is to hook up with underaged girls.
2006-12-19 06:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah when he goes out with you he should all 100 percent of his attention on you. But he is right when he says he looks because he is a guy because all guys do it(some just are better trained at resisting the urge to look) we are intrigued by the female body. Just remember that he may look at other girls but he is with you and is staying with you. But if you really are concerned about it just talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel.
Best of luck
2006-12-19 06:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, First, no he is not dead...he can look.....there is nothing wrong with that...It is wrong if he acts upon it...He cannot poke out his eyes, so he cannot look at other women....Men will look at other women that is a fact of life.
Second, stop comparing yourself to the other girls....He is with YOU!
Third, I would talk to him about is MySpace..and tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable, with him adding women and flirting...Be honest with him about this...
I am 39, just so you know how old I am and not just some youngster without life experince....
2006-12-19 06:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just looking is one thing. (I think all guys do that, some just don't get caught) Adding them to myspace is too far. I would let him know that he is going too far and how it makes you feel.
I wouldn't worry yet, if he doesn't care how it makes you feel then I would worry. (Because who wants to be with someone who doesn't care about your feelings.)
2006-12-19 06:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be worried. Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean that you can't look at the menu. *lol* You probably still think that some men are attractive. It's the same scenario.
2006-12-19 06:12:26 · answer #11 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋