How do you know when you have met your soul mate?

Question

And please don’t tell me you will just know give me details. Because I have had enough of being single. And it hurts every time when I think I have found the one but she does not feel the same way about me. Or the other way around where she feels something for me but I don’t feel nothing for her. Every time that happens it breaks my heart to know that I came that close to love but didn’t happen. I mean why is it taking me longer to find someone where we both feel the same for each other? And also how come younger people than me find love just like that when it should have been my turn. It just makes me angry that everyone is happy with someone and I am left on my own.

Answer 1

join the club

age 51 and dumped by the man I hoped to be with for the rest of my life one week before Christmas
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Answer 2

First, let me say that younger people often don't have the expectations and the baggage going into a new relationship that older people have. The older you are and the more relationships you have been in, the more likely you are to compare one person to another. This is an unfair practice to the new lover or GF.

In answer to your question.....when you are in a relationship and no matter how mad you get at a person or how annoying they can be....if you can't walk away or can't imagine ever being without them, that's a good sign.

Also, if you've been with someone even for a short period of a 6 months or a year, yet you can't really remember what life was like before them...that's another good sign.

Another thing I wanted to point out is that after the "infatuation" or "falling in love" stage has worn off, both people won't always be "IN LOVE" at the same time. This doesn't mean that you aren't soul mates, it does mean that you are human. The depth of love that comes with suviving those times when you aren't at the same place emotionally is more meaningful and deep than any emotions you felt in the lust and infatuation phase.

Trust me....been there. My soul mate and I have been through many times and trial in our marriage when we weren't sure we made the right decision, but yet, we can't walk away from each other too....... That's how we know that being together is right.

Good Luck..... God Bless......

And don't search for love, just let it find you.....that's another way of knowing that it's real and lasting :)

Answer 3

Im not sure there is such a thing as a soul mate as people can love more than once, i think you have found true love though when that person just makes you happy and all the bad stuff that happens in life doesnt seem as bad when your with them.
I think you need to be able to enjoy each others company and be able to share feelings.
It sounds like your ready for commitment which is a good thing, but maybe you need to stop looking and try and enjoy being single for a while, and you will meet someone special when you are meant to.

Answer 4

I can understand exactly what u r going thru,, but there is an old saying," whatever happens , happens for good ". U'll not be able to blv this at this point of time coz this saying wud mean nothing for u, but when u'll actually find that someone so special, all ur confusions wud end & u will thank god so much more then u must be complaining rite now. Just save my words somwhr in ur machine & u will come to know the meaning of me writing this as an answer to ur Question that day. Blv in god & have faith in ur Destiny, That someone is also looking for a SOMEONE which is u, its just that only god knows the time & one more thing bro,plzz take my E mail address & lemme know whenevr this happens which I am sure is gonna happen soon. Best Of Luck.
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Answer 5

I doubt younger people have found their soul mate. Most couples stay together because they're too scared to end it and move on. The majority of couples I know are really unhappy.

I'm 32 and have only found real love once. I have the same problem as you, either I'm interested and they're not or they're interested and I'm not. It's the same for loads of people. The love game is a bit like a lottery. You have to play it, date lots of different people and hope you get lucky.

As for the soul mate thing, for me I knew because I met someone who was totally on my wavelength. We were like two halves of the same person. Same likes and dislikes, same interests, loads in common and just a spark that I can't explain. We aren't together now and I'm single and yes it gets to me sometime. Your turn will come, just keep trying and just have some fun and stop making it out to be a bigger issue than it actually is.

Answer 6

Trust me, it's hard to comprehend but being a professional in the wedding business I have seen my share of "soul mates" as well as my share of people who shouldn't be getting married. When you find that person you don't necassarily know right away but it's easy to figure out within the first month or so.

I say, don't think about it so hard. If you can't find love, stop looking and it will come to you. Easier said then done, I know but it works.

My thoughts on the whole young people getting married is that they are too young, they won't last. The ideal age to get married (in my opinion) is between the ages of 25 and 30. Before 25 you're either still in college or starting your career, it's better to get all that out of the way before getting married and starting a family.

Another thing is that you should be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. If you were happy with yourself you wouldn't be angry about other people being together.

I hope this helps. Good luck and have a Merry Christmas!

Answer 7

A soulmate is simply someone we have a strong connection to, almost immediately. Sometimes it's as if they know our thoughts and dreams w/o us verbalizing them...as if we knew each other in a previous life. Soulmates come in all types though. They can be our age, much younger or much older...same sex, or different sex. They are often not romantic partners or lovers for us, but they can sometimes be. Some people meet none in a lifetime, others may meet many. As the saying goes, people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetyle. It's up to us to make the best out of whatever situation or opportunity is presented us.

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel babe, sometimes i get so angry because i am permanently single and all my friends have great boyfriends.
The only thing i can say is stop wanting to find the one, im sure she will come along eventually and even then you wont meet her and know straight away she is the one. Feelings like that have to grow, so give the girls you are going out with a chance before you move on to the next one.
Good luck xxx

Answer 9

She'll feel the same way you do about her. Also she'll meet or perfect match what you want in a mate even more so then you realize and time will reveal all that. You two might even say the same thing some times. Share thoughts and such. You'll compliment and complete eachother. It's hard to explain you'll just know that you know no questions asked.

Answer 10

You get a feeling deep inside you that you were made for eachother, that at last you have met the one, someone whom you can relate to and who excites you not just physically, but intellectually, emotionally and spiritually too.
Put another way, ask not "could I live with her/him," but "could I live without her/him?"
That's when you will be ready to call off the search and devote yourself to making that person happy.
I think too that it must be reciprocal. If it isn't and the other person doesn't feel the same way toward you, then the chances are that it's not right. You may always have a yearning for them, but don't let that rule your thinking or you could end up harrasing them in the mistaken belief that they will change their mind. Better to stay friends and look elsewhere for your true love.

Answer 11

you know you have met your soul mate when all the sudden you find yourself forgiving mistakes and imperfections. when you think everything that person does is marvelous and you find no wrongs in them and if their are imperfecions it dont matter to you because you know this person is the "perfect one for you" their will be no question about it , you will know it when it happens because no other woman , even the most desireable woman in the world( i assume u r male) could be half as beautiful and marvelous to you! you think of that person day and night,you want their happiness forever before your own,you can and do trust her with all your heart and soul and you know you dont have to worry over cheating,lies,abuse or neglect because your soul mate wont feeel anything except what you feel for her! it is a beautiful and peaceful thing. no need to worry, enjoy single life for a while. if your out hunting for the "perfect one" you may miss your soul mate in the process. relax, it iwll happen and when it does you wont question it "YOU'LL JUST KNOW!"