A head on collision where he veered over the center line into my lane. (true story folks) He was killed instantly, I walked away unscratched. I am deeply grieved even though it was not my fault. My friend I had known all my life. What purpose did your God have in mind by taking the life of a good man and sparing mine?
2006-12-19 06:07:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Feliceitis, should I send you photos and a copy of the police report. How about pictures of the deceased.
2006-12-19 06:16:43 · update #1
I wish there was something I, or anybody could say to help you with what you are going through right now, but there just isn't--if death wasn't random, people would find a way to cheat it and live forever, but sometimes the randomness of it seems so perverse... I wish I could help ease your stress and pain
2006-12-19 06:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry that this had to happen to you. I answered your question about emotions, I hope that it helps in some way. My heart goes out to you, you are one of my favorite people in this forum, and this I wouldn't wish on anyone.
God didn't take your friend's life, and he didn't spare yours. This was just an unfortunate accident that came about because all the variables were in place for it to be so. That's all it was. You had the misfortune of being involved with this, and now you have a tough time ahead.
I am so sorry. If there's anything I can do, mail me. Please don't beat yourself up over this, or try too hard to find an answer. There really aren't any. Best to you.
2006-12-19 06:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am sorry for your loss, and I am glad to hear that you were okay. I hope that his family, and his friends, will be able to grieve, and recover from this tragic loss. My sincerest thoughts go out to you, and to them, especially at this time of year.
I am going to play devils advocate for a minute. You asked what God had in mind, and from my belief system I will answer you, just as I would any of my friends or family who would ask me this question, please dont be offended, I am just answering the question.
We can not know why God does what he does, but we can be assured he has a purpose. As a Christian, we know ALL things work together for good, not only good things, but bad things to. And we know there is a purpose for what has happened, even though we may not see it yet, or for many years. Maybe you have work left to do here, maybe there is something for you to accomplish, and it was merely his time.
Please know, I am sorry for you loss, again. May you find comfort.
2006-12-19 06:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a very difficult time. What you are experiencing now is survivor's guilt. What happened was an accident and nothing can change that. I'm sure your friend was/is a good man, as I'm totally sure you're a good person as well. You must understand you will be going thru a lot of emotions in dealing with your grief. Seek help to get thru this difficult time so that you may heal in a constructive way & not destructive such as turning to alcohol or drugs to deal with this situation. Who knows what God's purpose was? We are not to judge & no one should judge you. More importantly you shouldn't judge yourself. Your life is just as precious as your friend's life. Give yourself time to heal & adjust. It's going to be a long difficult process. It will not be easy. Keep your faith, trust in God, & do what you have to do to get yourself thru this. I pray that you'll get thru this. But please remember to take care of yourself. Love yourself & don't blame yourself for surviving, apparently that's God's plan. From this point on your life will be changed, it's up to you to choose to handle this in the most positive way you can. Take your time to heal, there are no time limits. God Bless.
2006-12-19 06:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss of a dear old friend. As a Christian I believe that God has set a time for people to be born and a time to die. Yours might have been spared so that you can draw closer to Christ and let this experience be your testimony. But for whatever reason you still have more things to do on this earth.
You are in my prayers whether you are a Christian or not.
I hope that you will receive peace to deal with this loss and that my God will reveal Himself to you and make a place in your heart for Him.
2006-12-19 06:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one on Yahoo Answers will be able to give you an answer that will satisfy you. You will grieve and suffer through it and come to your own answers in time. Be mad at God, your friend, circumstances, yourself, whomever else you need to. Reach out to friends when you're ready to talk and get support. Take your time, you don't get over it in a year like a lot of people might tell you. In a few years you will know why you're still here. You may never know why he isn't.
2006-12-19 06:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, my friend for your loss. No one knows why these things happen. Who can know the mind of God?
Death and suffering are a part of life. I hope that someday we will understand it.
2006-12-19 06:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by paulsamuel33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have a limited time here on earth and when God calls us back, we go. Some by car crash and some by other means. People who are close to God are more likely to go sooner as they are ready to go. Life is not about life on earth, but eternal life with God, so once you have made your decision on earth then you can go when you are done.. Your friend was done.
2006-12-19 06:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't believe you. No one goes on Answers the selfsame day that you lose a dearly beloved old friend...in whom you had the crash with. Then to say...why did God do this by sparing your life rather than his.
Honestly, if this did happen....you and I are not worthy of such an answer from God on why He allows anything. It is none of our business, and leave it at that. Anything more on this thought would be sinful.
2006-12-19 06:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Felicitas 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
talk to you minister, priest or rabbi and they can give you better answers and counseling than those here even though some are trained professionals.
2006-12-19 06:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋