I'll keep this as short as possible: love my gf dearly and know she loves me but she can't always show it. asked her about it, we talked; occurs to me (w/out her going into detail b/c she just freezes) she has unresolved issues (given to her from what I can tell) that are pretty big. She knows she needs to change: I have seen her attempts; she is so strong and strong willed that she tries to do it by herslef but I now realize she can't do it alone and probably needs pro help. I want to be there for her and I try to be. I seriously know I can't do it for her, just want her to know I am willing to travel this road w/ her to the end. So what do I tell her? Anything? Lead by example? This is extra tough b/c no one I know has any practical experience to advise from. Anybody have ideas/suggestions?
2006-12-19 06:05:20 · 2 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell her exactly what you said here.
You know she has some problems and love her enough to want her to seek help. You are willing to go the distance it takes, with her, to get her better.
Then be there, listen to what she says without trying to fix it, and just love her.
That's basically all you can do. But she has to face her problems and want to get better also.
Good luck to you both. Sometimes recovery is a long harsh road.
2006-12-19 06:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can talk her into going to counseling for her unresolved issues it do wonders for both of you and your relationship. Let her know that there is no shame in it. It sounds like she is keeping her feelings bottled up and is afraid of being hurt. Re-assure her that you will be with her every step if she agrees to it. Good luck.
2006-12-19 06:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by DL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋