Im currently having to put up with not just the mother in law but his 5 sisters while im 26 weeks preggo.......All of them have offered (ONE TOLD ME) that they were going to stay with me after i have the baby....i politely told them that this is my mothers job and she will be staying in our only guest bedroom and helping me out :)BUt its like that goes in one ear and out the other....along with all the pregnancy advice.telling me what to or not to do....IM GOING NUTS! I just wanted to hear some other In law stories....seems to help to vent about them!
Please share your stories i would love to hear them!
2006-12-19 06:03:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Congratulations!
My mother-in-law is very religious. She has started this new company with a product that I guess is what God intended us to get our nutrition from. I don't know the name but I call it Jesus Juice. It's not FDA approved and side effects very. I guess it's supposed to be the cure for anything and everything. She doesn't stop giving us this stuff. We have a whole bunch of containers (they are supplements in cans) that we have no clue what to do with. She gave me a whole bunch during my pregnancy.
My husband was deployed during my pregnancy and the birth of our son. She offered to be in the room and so on--normal MIL stuff. I couldn't stand it. Then when my husband came home from Iraq she decided that she was going to come pick him up with me just so that she could be with the baby again. (We live far away from her.) While her coming to visit was not a problem the fact of the matter was my husband just came home and we had to occupy her. Of course, my husband wanted "quality" time with his son but so did she. It was so hard juggling the two. She never wants to visit unless we have a ton of things going on.
She also won't stop bothering us about going to visit her. She lives in NM we live in FL. That's a long trip that we cannot afford right now. She makes me feel horrible everytime I tell her "no."
She also criticizes me for every choice I make. She says I'm too hard on my husband for making him give our boys a bath after a long day. I'm just a horrible mother in her eyes. It's so annoying!
Mother-in-laws will always be around. I love her dearly but some days I just want her to leave me alone. Best of Luck!
2006-12-19 06:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh man...i hate that!! My husbands mother wants to come here when we have our baby and i wouldn't really mind except for the fact i have adopted twin sons, and she loves to talk about her BIOLOGICAL grandkids....when the twins have been with us since the day they left the hospital. She is so excited about this baby, which is great...but she isnt so excited by the twins who are awesome wonderful kids. I figure its just her loss. Another thing she likes to do though, is take over. And she likes to tell what you are doing wrong. If you are having your mother come to stay when the new baby is born, maybe you should have your husband talk to his mother and say she is more then welcome to come once you are all home and settled. Either way good luck...it is so hard sometimes with some mother in laws. I wish you and the new baby the best of health and luck and a merry christmas to all of you!
2006-12-19 06:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married a mamma's boy so I have soooo many stories.
When we got married, my MIL put an wedding invite up in her office (she works with 60 people) and told them they were all invited and they didn't need to RSVP. She knew I was only having 200 guests but she didn't care.
When my first son was born, I had my parents stay with us for a week. She was so angry. She ended up staying in a hotel and complained about everything in the hotel. She called us at midnight and said there was someone outside cutting the top off of a car and we needed to go get her car and park it in our drive way. Then they called our house at 6:30 AM (remember, new baby) and couldn't believe that we were actually sleeping. They called to tell us to pick them up at 9:00 AM.
I could write a book of horrible MIL stories. Just remember, you aren't alone.
2006-12-19 12:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is 4 now and my son turned 3 just before Thanksgiving. When we go over to my Hubbys Grandmothers house, my kids are usually just waking up and not very affectionate, they don't want to give out hugs and kisses. His grandmother said that I was teaching the kids to hate her and that she didn't want a kiss from my daughter becuase she was being ugly and she didn't like ugly girls.
Can you believe a grown woman 70+ years old told this to a 4 year old. OMG, I was stunned and so ticked off it's not even funny!
At Thanksgiving her dog bit my son, and she just shouted at my son "get up, your fine, that dog didn't hurt you" as tears came streaming down his face. She is such a bitter old bat. I think I would much rather have to overly supportive type. Oh Well.
Good Luck to you and congratulations!
God Bless
2006-12-19 06:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget that my mother in law stays with us. I married an only son with three sister in laws. not only does my mother in law stay with us but my youngest sister in law too.
She is always complaining as to why i go back to sleep when my hubby goes to work (he is up everymorning at 6:30 and leaves at about 7:30) once i get up on my own time she wants to know what I am making him for lunch & why am i on the phone with him & why am i meeting up with friends & the list goes on.
The one night we were invited to a friend of mines for dinner & that one evening. During dinner she pitched up all uninvited & said we told her to come. She had spoiled the entire evening. I often tell my female friends that i would kill her myself if nothing happens to her. Thats how much i hate this women.
I have been blessed with a mother in law from hell. Thank God my sister in laws are okay & not that bad. Atleast they bring biscuits & dessert stuff to my house almost everyday
2006-12-19 06:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously need to be more vocal to them. Flat out tell, "No, you are not staying at my house after my baby is born. I do not need your help. Please stop offering."
I have a fun Mother-in-law story. Every year my husband's family gets together for a camping trip. It was kind of cold, and my mother-in-law kept asking where a hat was that she had bought my son. I kept tell her that it was on his head. She got all huffy and yelled at me in front of the entire family! Apparently she bought my son 2 hats and had only given him 1. She found the other hat in her car. She brought the hat and tossed it to me. I pulled her aside and told her that she needed to apologize to me in front of everyone, and that if she EVER treated me like that again, she would never see her grandson. She's has been very polite to me ever since.
You have to stand up for yourself. They have no problem being pushy with you, you need to get pushy back. If you don't, they'll walk all over you.
2006-12-19 06:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My MIL the nazi...
I am going through a divorce, so bashing the motherinlaw sounds like awesome therapy LOL
My motherinlaw was horrible. She never approved of me, because I was liberal and she was submissive. Her husband ruled her. Whatever he wanted she would do. That is how she wanted me to be with her son. She always wanted everything done the old fashion way and I could never do anything right. I refused to clean without the help of everyone in my household. Because she claimed she wasn't allowed to see the kids enough, (more than once a week) she got a job at their school in the cafeteria and now she tries to make decisions and I am in the process of trying to get her fired because she told the school that my daughter was supposed to ride the bus home and they put her on the bus! I am seriously thinking that MIL's are just evil LOL!
2006-12-19 06:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Angelle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i am lucky that my in-laws are lovely people, and most of them live half a country away! that aside, take my advice:
you are pregnant, and therefore it is assumed that you are somewhat insane due to hormones. FLIP OUT ON YOUR INLAWS AND KICK THEM OUT OF YOUR HOUSE!!! you will be forgiven, ala the temporary insanity defense, and they will be gone. Alternatively, it is time to get your husband involved - have him kick them out. They are his relatives, he should bear the brunt of this, not you. Move your mother in, BEFORE the baby comes so that there is no room for additional visitors. And anytime anyone starts giving you unsolicited pregnancy advice, smile politely and ignore them. That is not just from in-laws - it is amazing how many strangers will just pop out with personal stories (usually horror stories) at the drop of a hat when seeing a pregnant lady.
best of luck!
2006-12-19 06:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by SmartAleck 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I have two mother in laws (my hubby biological mom and his step mom) I get along great with his step mom but not his real mom! My mother in law tells me what to do and how to do it all the time it only gets worse after the baby comes! The worst thing she ever told me was to give my 6 month old vodka and OJ to make her behave on a plane trip! She is truly nuts!
2006-12-19 06:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by lola 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My cousin is getting married and her soon to be mother in-law is taking it upon herself to plan the whole wedding down to the colors. I guess his mom is some type of ultra conservative christian and she doesn't want alcohol served at the wedding. I'm gonna be in this wedding so this presents a problem, not just for me but for my whole family. Point is she is having a really hard time with this especially cause her soon to be husband is a huge mama's boy. I told her to ditch him so he can marry his mom. LOL
2006-12-19 06:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Popcorn Playa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋