Do you smack your kids? Why or why not?

Question

Personally, I rarely got smacked growing up (im 19). I think its wrong (no matter what), if you feel you have to do that, you have poor communication skills, and your parenting skills are probably lacking also.

Answer 1

You are a bright young girl! I agree with you 100%! I am so glad you don’t believe in spanking! It’s amazing how many parents here suggest spanking. I have worked in a preschool for over 12 years and, of course, cannot spank or I would be out of a job. Over the years I have had to come up with alternative techniques to disciplining children and they work! Spanking is a form of punishment, not a form of discipline. Parents need to discipline their children. Not hurt them for them to comply. Spanking a child only teaches that you are more powerful than them and that you hurt others so that they will comply with your wishes. Children who are spanked are fearful of their parents and will only comply in order not to get spanked, not because they have learned self-control. A strong parent should be able to replace a spanking or smack on the hand with a simple "No." Many parents say “The problem with kids these days is that parents don’t spank anymore.” Not true! 90% of American parents spank! I would bet money that a majority of these parents have not taken any parenting classes, have not read any parenting books, and have not spoken to educators about disciplining. Parents need to educate themselves.

Answer 2

I don't spank. But I have slapped my toddler's hand once when he was touching an outlet. You try having good communication skills with a then 12 month old. I wanted him to get away from the plug and that was the quickest thing I could think of. "NO" wouldn't have done a thing at that age. It was a one time thing and I'm not at all ashamed of it. It was appropriate for the level of danger he was in.

Personally, if my parenting skills are lacking because I put his safety first, so be it.

What a judgemental question. Even as a non-spanker who wouldn't use spanking as a punishment, I was offended by the way you worded it.

If you want to ask a question ask it...but don't use your question to preach. You don't care about the answers at all, you just wanted to pronounce a judgement to the world.

And I'd really love it if you would ask the question again when you actually have children...and when your 12 month old is reaching for an outlet with a sharp pointy object......Then you may pass your judgements.

Oh yeah that time out would have worked great after that sizzling zap.

Answer 3

No No No... God gave us a rear end for something other than sitting on it.. That is what is wrong with kids now days. I have two children and they are very up-right and well-mannered kids. But there are times when my children need a smack on the rump to remind them that they don't live in a zoo or that their mouth needs to watched. I also have a very well communication with my kids. Because even though they know they have done something wrong they will still come to me an tell me. My parenting skills arent lacking by any means. When you have children then come back and make that post to other parents, till then I believe you should take notes instead of critizing other peoples parenting!

Answer 4

Woah, I think your are wrong. I have a loving family, son and daughter aged 14 and 10. I have smacked them when they were much younger. Never on the head, twice on the bottom. Essential is that they understand why they are to be smacked - and this requires good communication skills. At early ages you have to be loving and firm, otherwise you do not get your child's respect. You will hopefully find this out yourself as you try to balance the desire to be loved by your children and the desire to be loved and respected, I see too many examples for younger people who have never been effectively reprimanded, boorish, self centered and spoilt. I'm so pleased our two children have grown up the way they have. To sum why do you not put your hand in a fire, or go sleep on a motorway ? Answer because you get hurt. Sames applies if you misbehave.

Answer 5

It depends on the child. I have two wonderful boys (14 and 12) both of whom are very well behaved. I never had to smack the older boy as he always responded to other discipline measures, but the younger boy has needed a smacked bottom a number of times growing up and still ocasionally now. He needs it because he is a more active and mischeivous boy who doesnt really care about the carrot so needs the stick. He knows why he is going to be disciplined before it happens smacked on his underpants until he is genuinley crying before getting a hug and carrying on his merry way. It works and he doesnt repeat the offence and is just as happy as before.

Answer 6

I think that most parents spank out of anger or frustration. My 19mo son may get a smack on his hand just hard enough to get his attention if he is doing something that could harm him but other than that... I dont smack or spank my kids. My daughter is 9 and is so well behaved and well mannered and I have never laid a hand on her. I think the effects of spanking last as long as the pain last then they forget.. the best punishment is somthing that they wont soon forget - like lost privaliges etc. I dont judge parents that choose to spank their kids (spanking and beating are too completely different things) I just have never had to. I get angry and frustrated but I walk away take a deep breath and count to 10.. by then any earge to use physical violence is gone. I was in an abusive relationship and bless my daughters heart she saw some of the violence I was subjected too. How can I tell her that what he did to me was wrong (and me allowing him to continue it just as wrong) if I use physical violence with her or my son. I wont do it. But like I said I dont judge other parents either... unless it is excessive and goes beyond what is considered spanking into beating.

Answer 7

I agree with you. You are right. I don't believe in using pain to teach my children right from wrong. My children listen well, respect others and aren't afraid of me. I use time-out and it works great. It is definitely poor parenting for sure. Smacking just is a wimpy way out of using better alternatives. Parenting is hard work and I want my children to believe that hitting doesn't solve problems.

Answer 8

I am 27, I got spanked, and I think I am a better person for it. whats the point of making a kid sit down for 10 minutes? I even had to pick out my own switch...boy it only took once, but i straighten up quick. and spanking is not beating...dont get me wrong

Have kids, have them laugh at you when you put them in a corner, then smack that butt. see if they laugh again.

Answer 9

particular and No. My mother and father in no way spanked me as a infant and that i became out super. They disciplined me in a nonphysical way and that i the right thank you to admire them for this reason. They did, in spite of the shown fact that, spank my sister. She replaced into very diverse from me and he or she mandatory the greater self-discipline. She replaced into harder and had some subjects with admire, yet she additionally became out super. each and every infant is diverse and so is each and every determine. i do no longer think of it would be unlawful through fact the government has no right to tell people a thank you to develop their childrens. i wouldn't in any respect spank my infants through fact i've got faith that there are greater suitable strikes, yet some people think of spanking childrens is the only way. i think of it quite is super which you have desperate to no longer smack your infant, good success!

Answer 10

i think that smacking make children grow up into violent adults. Bad parenting could therefore have implications for all of society.