Parents!!! Does anyone share my concern?

Question

I read all these questions from teenagers and young adults about sex, and they have no idea the consequences or that having sex totally changes your life. do any other parents out there wonder what happened to the art of parenting? My mom had me at 17 and she made sure that I wouldn't make the same decisions and that I would have better oppurtunities than she did. I worry for all these babies in the world having babies or getting STD's because they haven't been educated. Maybe I'm just blowing off steam but I am curious to see if anyone shares my opinion.

I ask this because I am 27 and am a new parent(my son is 4 mos old) and since becoming a parent I realize that even though my parents irritated me when I grew up I now understand why they were that way. it was to keep me safe

I want to thank everyone for answering this question. I enjoy hearing from other parents who have the same opinion and views as myself but it is also nice to get other parents views which are different from mine. it helps me grow as a person and be a better parent myself

Answer 1

I totally agree,by the time parents decide to teach their children about sex,it's usually too late.As far as the questions on here,I think alot of the kids know the answer to these questions they are asking,they just want to hear the replies we give back b/c they think its cute/funny!

Answer 2

I feel the same way my mom had me the week after she turned 18 (she married my dad at 17 and still married). But they brought me up to not make the same mistakes. I stayed a virgin until I was an adult, and I didn't have my first child till I was 26 (now 29 expecting second child). I just worry about the world my boys will be growing up in. Because alot of children out there are having sex, and they don't see the emotional consequences or the health concerns that will arise. And the fact that most of those children aren't going to their parents to talk, but are talking to strangers or their young peers about it is very alarming. Parents are gonna make mistakes and sometimes our children won't come to us, but we need to let them know they can come to us and be honest with them about the mistakes we have made, and hope like crazy they learn from us. That's what my parents always did.

Answer 3

Honestly, it's not completely parents. I know many parents who have been very open with their children about sex. They've offered to provide condoms and birth control. They've explained STDs and pregnancy to their children but their children still have sex.

It's not just parents. I believe that parenting does have an influence BUT teenagers have a mind of their own. They think they know what is best for themselves. They think they are an adult when they are still living at home with their parents.

Many things are to blame. I don't think parents offer positive influences to children. In a world where there are so many negative influences I'll be darn sure my kids have as many positive ones. I believe, while, parents are a big influence that if these teenagers were involved in school programs, boy or girl scouts, a Straight Edge program, church activities, and things along those nature there would be far less of a chance these kids would get into trouble. It's all about positive influences which I believe parents disregard.

Answer 4

Yes, it is sad indeed.

My mother died when I turned 16. My father had left when I was 12. So, my education about much of life came from the kids in school and what I learned on the street. Even when my parents were alive, they did not "parent" us.

Looking back, I know I would have made much better choices had my mother instilled those values in my brothers and I. It was really hard to learn on my own. I feel so bad for kids out there that don't have a parent that cares enough about them to guide them and set some healthy boundaries for them.

It is by pure miracle that I was able to have my own child recently. I am a single mom and it's been difficult at times. i'm much older now however. I learned so much in my hard life that my son will now benefit from. Oh, and I also got years of counseling many years ago, that helped me cope with much of the mistakes of my youth. I can assure you that my son will always have me there to guide him. He is already so happy and fulfilled and I'm really blessed to give him the experience that I have had. I do whole-heartedly believe that it is a parent's responsibility to give this to thier children, no matter what the cost. yes, they mayhate you for a little while for reigning them in a bit. However, they will truly thank you in the long run.

If my mother were still alive today. I know she would be shocked to see the wonderful woman that I became. Sadly, she had very little to do with it.

Answer 5

I wonder what happened to marriage before sex?!! Everyone ask if you think their ready for sex when their like 16 or 17 but they don't even think about marriage or the consequences of sex. All i can say is that if people would spend more time with the children they bring in to this world and teach them right from wrong the world would be more educated on the whole subject.

Answer 6

I think it is because parents are too busy for their children these days. I think that our economy forces a household to have two incomes, so there is not constant parenting ~ and a daycare doesn't count as parenting as most don't have any desire to raise your children for you or provide any morals/ethics/values. I also think that our society promotes being social and busy all the time and a lot of parents don't choose to reduce their pre-child activites for the responsiblity of being a parent ~ they try and cram everything into their lifestyle instead of choosing what is most important to them and what will be best for their child. I think most people don't truly understand what it means to be a dedicated parent first and foremost ~ its is not a responsibility one can truly understand until they've had children. People think they're just entitled to have children without thinking of the impact it will have on their family life, their social life, and the impact to the child or the economics behind having a child to provide for. Unfortunately, our government doesn't see parenting as the most important job, otherwise they would pay mothers (or fathers) to stay home to raise their children ~ or at least provide more than 6 weeks of partial paid time off! No wonder we have so many messed up children in society!

Answer 7

I have concern for friends of mine about this subject only because while they use protection and all that jazz they still are heart broken and emotionally scared when the relationship comes to a screeching halt.After getting so close to someone,the fact that they had sex on a regular basis,and the raging teenage hormones made it harder for the couple to get over the break up.

Answer 8

Well of course people share your opinions, however I'm not sure what YOU can do to change it. Be that as it may all you can do is urge your children to make the right decisions. You MUST realize that in the end it's going to be up to your kids to make the decision as to weather they will participate in sexual activities. Let it be known that sex is CONTINUOUSLY being pushed in their face be it through T.V. adds or just the Internet, or daily life.

Answer 9

Compeletely agree. It makes me terrified to send my 5 year old son to school for fear of what he will be exposed to. I have 2 boys and a daughter. It makes me sick to think that my kids can go into the bathrooms of the schools and get condoms. THe schools are not preventing or discouraging sex, they are encouraging "safe" sex. Next thing you know they will have a room just for sex, so the teens have sex in a safe place. UGH whatever happend to morals.

Answer 10

I know that when my daughter is older I am going to have more than one talk with her about dating, boys, sex, and protection. I am affraid that she will give into perpressure like her mother did (at 15) since she really has no problem flaunting the fact that she did it. I do not want my daughter to make those same mistakes.

*NOTE* her mother and I were not together until she was 20 and I was 23.