So me and this guy have been getting to be really really good friends over these past two months and i've totally started opening up to him and he started doing the same. So he was telling me about this girl who he likes, and she totally shreaded his heart, and he can't move on. So I suggest that he start seeing other girls, talking to other girls. And he goes "Well, I'm talking to you." But then I'm, "GIRLS. Not me." And then there's a pause. He goes "Yeah, it wouldn't work out anyways. You don't find me attractive." And I go "No, I never said that. Don't think that." And I lead the subject away from me but it soon comes back to that and he goes "I wonder if we're thinking the same thing." and I go "I don't know what you're thinking." and he goes "good."
What did he mean by all that? What does he think of me then?
2006-12-19 05:40:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For Pete's sake woman. Stop dancing circles around the subject and get to the point.
He is fishing to see if you are attracted. Sounds like you are fishin too if you ask 'What does he mean'...
He means to bed you down.
Now you need to stop being silliy and ask him if he is attracted to you.
Sounds like you missed a good opportunity before, don't let the next pass you by.
2006-12-19 05:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might be weeding your answers out (to see if there really IS a possibility of you two becoming more than just friends). He may be confused with some of your answers, trying to figure out whether you're really interested or not. (Like when you said "Girls, not me." Does "not me" mean that you're excluding yourself because you see him as friends only?) Then, he seems to be giving clues as well. The part of "It wouldn't work out anyways. You don't find me attractive." can be seen in two ways. 1.) He might be protecting himself (since he just said that he's been hurt by that other girl that he liked) and 2.) he's trying to figure you out and what you think (by the 2nd part of that statement). You may've confused him by saying "Don't think that" but then changing the subject. (Now keep in mind, men, in general, think we're complex enough! lol) He could be thinking "Hmm, does that mean she thinks I'm attractive but only as a friend or attractive and not just a friend?"
The best answer is this: the direct approach. If you like him as more than a friend, let him know. But if you don't, let him know as well. Just say, "I care about you, what you're going through, but I just don't feel the same way" (boyfriend/girlfriend). Otherwise, you'll drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what he means/doesn't mean.
2006-12-19 05:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Qmd86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he really likes you and thinks you two are building something between you. I think he's still trying to feel you out for your feelings about him and is too scared to ask you out. Just my opinion.
2006-12-19 05:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the guy clearly likes you but he probly thinks that you dont like him as much so everytime he says something that shows how he feels such as the "I'm talking to you" line you go and burst his bubble with your "GIRLS. not me." He is just trying to hide his hurt girl............
I dont think he hates you or anything just really disappointed that you seem to like him a lot less than he likes you
2006-12-19 05:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him!!! Thats the best way to find out... do you like him or do you want to be friends??? If you really want to know what he's thinking, just ask him!
2006-12-19 05:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gerri S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋