That crap doesnt work and you dont want to beat them to death like some of these crazy people .Nowa days you cant do much because they will hall your butt off to jail.So whats the next thing best?
2006-12-19 05:32:02 · 17 answers · asked by AMBRASIA C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it depends on what they are doing and what their age is. If they are throwing toys, I take away toys etc.. punishment needs to fit the crime. But my kids know they get 2 warnings then they get a whack on the butt and go to their room.
2006-12-19 05:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to discipline your children is to actually do what you say you are going to do. If you say "Don't touch the computer, or you can't use it for a month" , and they touch it, then do what you said! To many people give there kids a thousand chances before acting, and the kids know it, so they know they can act up for an hour before they will get any repercussion. It's amazing the power of taking things away. You're children don't need to watch TV, or play video games. They *get to*. That's the problem a lot of parents have, they let their kids think that they somehow have the right to all of their toys, but in reality, it's just something nice that you let them do if they are good. The hardest part is teaching your children from a young age to be respectful of others, and of themselves.
Hope this helps, it worked for me! I have three well adjusted and loving adults that I raised this way!
2006-12-19 05:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ch Clark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the child. When my son was young, all I had to do was raise my voice to him a little and he'd practically be in tears. On the other hand, my daughter was a little spitfire who had no problem telling me "No" when I told her to do something or to stop something. So I usually just raised my voice a little with my son, and occasionally I gave him a time-out. My daughter was a different story. I tried time-out and it was kind of hit-and-miss as far as how effective it was as punishment. So sometimes I had to resort to warming her backside for her. She would only get one swat on the butt from me, and it wasn't a hard swat but it was firm. And yes, I spanked her in public a number of times and was never confronted by someone accusing me of child abuse -- heck, never even heard the words mentioned. I think most adults and parents look approvingly on parents who discipline their children without beating the crap out of them. I know I can't stand to hear some screaming brat in a store, and most of the people I know are the same way. It also helps that I'm a paralegal specialist and know EXACTLY what Michigan law has to say on the subject of child abuse (every state is different, but I'm pretty sure that one swat on the butt is considered legal throughout the U.S.).
2006-12-19 05:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are they? My kids know that time-out is not an option. They know that depending on the offense, depends on if they get sent to their room(no TV, Radio, etc). If the offense is major then they get a smack on the bottom. They also the "look". IF they have done something they know from espereince that the "look" is enough to get them worried. But you have to be firm and consistent. If you dont' believe in spanking your kids, it is fine, but you have to have a firm tone, and a consistent tone. Follow through with your threats and don't make threats that you can't keep. And you might try a reward system. Have either a daily are weekly chart and for chores and homework completed, they get some thing special...wheather a toy, or a trip to McDonalds.
Good luck and don't forget to breath
2006-12-19 05:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I never like "surprise punishments". I always tell my daughter to stop what she is doing first and then I tell her that if she does it again, she will get a specific punishment.
Depending on the severity of the crime:
no screens for a day/week
no play date with her best friend for a day/week
That way she knows what the consequences are. It is her decision whether to misbehave or not but she knows what to expect.
The one and only rule is NEVER and I mean NEVER say that an action will be punished and then don't punish. That is the worst thing you can do. You have to keep your word.
2006-12-19 05:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by hurricane camille 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that spanking is for life threating times and time out is for minor offences all tha others get slave time with loss of privlages that are able to be earned back. Slave time as we call it means she has excessive chores and duties to do above and beyond the useal, breaks have to be approved. a job well done earns back small amounts of phone tv or computer, whining and slowpokeyness earn more slave time, remorse and extra good work earn extra free time or a day off depending
2006-12-19 05:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by loveamouse7767 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a seven y/o boy and a five y/o girl and I still do the time out thing, but while they're in time out I let them know which priveledges/toys ect I will be taking awat, for how long and what they have to do to get it back. My son lost video games for the summer this last year, and he loses things like riding his motorcycle on the weekends, ect., things that are important to him to do. Good luck.
2006-12-19 05:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by lisa h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does "time out" really do? I believe that it solves nothing. There is a fine line between spanking, "whupping", and abuse. I can count on one hand the number of times that I have meted physical punishment to my youngest. Taking away things like the cell phone, Playstation, etc really hurts. I heard of a parent who taught her kid a lesson by actually giving away his things to other kids.
2006-12-19 05:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by J W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take things away depending on age, my 11 yr old the phone, the computer, my 10 yr old the same things, my 8 yr old, the xbox, his toys, if they are really bad, then I will make them buy back the priviledge--they seem less likely to misbehave the next time.
2006-12-19 05:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a last resort, Spankings are still very legal in all 50 states, and Canada. They are also very effective if done correctly, and used sparingly. As long as your spanking the bottom and not leaving permanent marks spankings are OK.
Good Luck
2006-12-19 21:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋