I'm having my third child.My other two children are 7 and 8.Has anyone had children with a large age gap like mine and how did your other children cope,and did they share a close bond?Or does anyone have sibblings whith a large age gap?
2006-12-19 05:32:00 · 14 answers · asked by Mattshottie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was 16 when my brother was born. I also had a sister who was 12 at the time. We are very close with my brother. Both my sister and I were pretty upset when we first found out my mother was pregnant, but when my brother was born we were very happy and have not had a negative thought about him since. I think the bond between us is so strong is party due to the age difference. I am now 25 and my brother is 9. I am sure at times he feels like he has 3 mothers, but we have lots of fun with him. We would not have it any other way!!!
2006-12-19 06:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by sydney72103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my family I am the youngest. In my family I am the only and youngest girl and my brothers all five of them range between 8-14 years older than me. Growing up was tough. If not for my friends I probably would have been very lonely. All of my brothers got to grow up together and by the time I was in the third grade I was the only one left at home. My advice would be to try to get your other children to include the youngest and pay a lot of attention to all. 2 of my brothers and I are very close but the other ones are not. It is really sad and I wish it could have been different but my dad never pushed for us to have a close family bond until we were all older. There is nothing wrong with the age gap just push for the family to be close at all ages. Good Luck and Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-19 05:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, from a family of 5 here, me 28, next 21, 19, 17, 10. Me being so old and our family situation, I was indeed the babysitter. That may not be the case with your family. But I will say we get a long very well, all of us. Of course it was kinda different when we were younger, we'll we lived in a two bedroom house, so we kinda got on each others nerves. But we always got over it. It can actually be an advantage, being so much older they can take them to the movies and really help you out. And the younger ones tend to act a little older cause there surrounded by older people. It's all good, no worries. Enjoy and congratulations.
2006-12-19 05:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by OnedayI'mgonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first son was 6 years old when my second son was born. It's been pretty good so far. It all depends on your children and their personalities. My older son does not require large amounts of attention, he will play by himself for hours - so a baby taking all the attention wasn't a big deal to him. Your kids may be different. Just always make them feel important, praise them when they help by getting you a diaper or sitting with the baby (safely secured in a seat or playpen of course) while you go to the bathroom or whatever.
And think of it this way, you have 3 kids and 2 are self sufficient. This will allow you to enjoy your new baby more.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 05:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age gap will be too big a problem. My youngest brother is 8 yrs younger than me and we get along pretty well. Besides the typical sibling rivalry nothing out of the ordinary so you don't have to worry about the age difference. I always loved kids so it wasn't a big problem with me.
2006-12-19 05:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello I have a sister that is 17 years younger than I am. It is not bad having a younger sibling. You do bond with them just as you would if you were the same age or around the same age. My little sister will have it easier with me being older because if something ever happen to our mom I would be there to take care of her.
2006-12-19 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what the age of the children are, its the maturity and abilities to be a "parent" that form the bonds that make a child a contributing adult to society later on in life.
If your doing the same things for all the children and not holding one out as very special because of their age then you should have well rounded children.
Don't believe that it's the children that will make the difference.......its you!
.......................think about it....................
2006-12-19 05:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by MsEagleTX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 yr old, a 12 yr old, and a 5yr old..The oldest gets along pretty well w/the 5yr old the middle child has less patience. The oldest will probably bond better, and the middle child will probably be a little jealous that he/she is not your baby anymore... Congrats on the news of the 3rd!
2006-12-19 05:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister are about 6 years apart. We didn't get along while we were growing up since she was always bossing me around but once I left for college and matured we have become best friends.
I think it would also depend on whether you have a boy or a girl and whether your older children become protective over your younger child.
2006-12-19 05:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by ☆Soon 2 be Mom of 2☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the older 2 don't feel their being ignored, not as important, or unloved, they should do just fine.
They more than likely will love being the older brother/sisters.
You just have to put the extra effort into letting them know and be involved in the preparations of the forth coming baby.
Let them feel the tummy, and talk tot he unborn. Let them read stories to the unborn.
It will be fine as long as you involve them as much as possible.
2006-12-19 05:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋