How long is too long to be living together, with kids, living the married life without being married? Why cant men commit? Weve been living together sharing a household for three years. now he wants us to pack up and move back to HIS hometown (were now in my hometown, where hes been living for 10 yrs) but he has not proposed to me yet!! I feel like I shouldnt have to give him an ultimatum, but how else can i get him to understand that i may NOT go with him if he hasnt committed all the way? Im scared that if i tell him how i feel he will take it the wrong way and we would break up and it would be MY fault. Were supposed to be moving in May.sould i not say anything and see if he loves me enough to propose on his own? give him an ultimatum?What should I do? Ladies? Men? HELP!!!!
2006-12-19 05:31:57 · 11 answers · asked by courtnestarr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to marry him, bring up the subject. I cannot believe you haven't already! he's getting all free milk- no purchase of the cow!!
2006-12-19 05:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years and living together for 2 1/2. He proposed after 3 1/2 years of dating.
My brother and his ex-wife (she has a daughter) were dating for SIX years (lived together for a few of those years) before he proposed.
Talk to him about it, don't give him an ultimatum. Have you discussed marriage at all?
Do you love each other? If yes, be happy with that.
Also, who says HE has to be the one to ask? Propose to him!
2006-12-19 05:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid if you have kids and have been together for more than 3 years, you are already considered married in the eyes of the law in many countries.
By "married", do you mean a romantic wedding? a civic ceremony? An outward show of your love and commitment to one another? There is an obvious common-law bond to one another and you will always be connected through your children.
I guess you need to ascertain what exactly you wish of him and then communicate it. If you still disagree after that, it may be time to end things. Good luck.
2006-12-19 05:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You guys are already committed. A certificate isn't going to change the relationship. Be happy with the way things are or get ready for him to push you away. You can't rush things and maybe marriage isn't the way it's supposed to be. But so what? You are living a committed life in every respect. Why can't you just be happy??? It sounds like this is more your issue than his.
2006-12-19 05:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree if he is a good guy and you two are happy then just wait.If you give him a ultimatum then he 'll say or do the complete opposite thing that you hoped for.Just enjoy the relationship you are in.If you can't then you have to let him go. Good luck
2006-12-19 05:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by imacutie2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him. if he doesn't want to stay wid u, then why should u fall in the black hole of sorrow and sadness while he's having fun wid oder girlz. well if u love him alot, then ask him. ask him if he luvz u. if not then u can just say this bak to him
"well fine!" and then it's up to u to decide wat next.
don't be scared hav complete confidence and everything will be fine. just beleive in yourself.
AND i can't beleive u still didn't bring up da subject!!!!!! gosh! how long does it have to take YOU?
he will soon know that u want to marry him and he might not go away by then!!!!
2006-12-19 05:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes it's better to just be together without marriage. Give him his time. He loves you he just hasn't found the right time yet.
2006-12-19 05:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if he loves u he will not get mad and will commit with no question. he won't leave u if he does love u.
2006-12-19 05:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by mysteryathelete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some time a sec is tooooo long and some time whole life is very short....it will be your decision........
2006-12-19 05:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ashish M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel --- if you cant do that you are in trouble anyway --- let him know how you feel
2006-12-19 05:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋