My BF of two years and I are taking some time apart from each other because we needed some space. But we splet together last week and now things seem a little confusing to me.
I still love him and he says he still loves me, he spent his entire day off working on my car (he hates doing that!). But he hasn't called in three days or come by my house. I want to respect his need for space by not calling him, but I feel like I need to know where we are going and what's going to happen with us. Is there any light at the end of this tunnel? Has anyone been in this situation before? What the hell do I do?
2006-12-19 05:21:07 · 29 answers · asked by JessicaJack 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should give him his space for awhile. Go out enjoy yourself and your own time. Do what you want and enjoy. Men seem to like women who are independant and have there own lives.
2006-12-19 05:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by dgail007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't put out when you're separated, because then he won't feel the need to rush back into a relatioship with you.
second, in a relationship there should be no such thing as time off. Either you want to be together or you don't. If there is doubt end it for good. Usually when someone wants time off from a relationship, it means that they want to be able to go out and test the waters to see if there is something better out there. If there is the relationship is over and you're left behind, if not then they come back around until they have the urge to test the waters again. The whole time they know that they always have you to fall back on.
2006-12-19 05:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you let him come to you he will eventually will if he cares for you. he has to i mean 2 years is long nomatter what he feels he will be telling you soon withouth you asking. its not tlike heis going to dissapear out of the nowhere .. he has to talk to you sometime. i guessing yoou talked about it before. give him some space . tell him that whenever he wants to talk youll be there and that you understand if he needs some space , the reason you say this is because you feel left out but that you understand. a person who really loves you will stay with you nomatter wut girl. write him this in a letter that way you won't get inturrupted in what you have to say, and you won't forget what you were going to say. be patient if you reallly care and if he really cares someday he will appriciate that. there is only so much you can do ... remember that the human heart sees what the eyes are blind to see and know what the mind can't seem to understand. your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. if you understand that qoute write it on the letter ... ok. also if the case is you guys are apart don't keep sleeping with him that will give you the big hint that its not worth the try to keep it together. don't go looking for him as i said there is only so much you can do and a letter and a wait should b enough. if he is doing things behing your back and your are waiting on a response then let him its his lost not yours. i soon as you find something out step away.. also don't wait that long have fun!
2006-12-19 05:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through this a few months ago. He told me he needed space, but I knew why he said it, and so do you. Be honest with yourself, you are smart. You know what your man does or doesn't want from you or whether someone else ok. SO I gave him some space, even though we were still together, I called him up and said look do you want to be with me or not, he said he felt overwhelmed and he couldnt answer that right now. I said look you know if you want to be with someone or not. He said I can't answer that. I said well you and I should go our seperate ways. I took that power from him and watched him ask like a baby and I stood my ground. You are not going to play with me like that nor will I stand back and let you do that to me. I got some confidence and said what am I doing, I can do better and I did. Now you will have to choose to do back or not but take the power from under him and he will realize his mistake or what he is missing but then let the decision be up to you, not him.
J lo has a song called " Hell be back" you should listen to it.
2006-12-19 05:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by visitor42353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to find out where u stand call him up and ask to meet him somewhere. Talk about where the two if you want ur relationship to go from here. If u want to be with him you have to break that "space", because most of the time when a couple takes a break they usually dont end up back together.
2006-12-19 05:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he spent the day working on your car so that you will be on the side waiting and wondering in case this other girl he's dating doesn't work out and he knows you love him and will take him back.
Don't call him. Let him call you and take the "space" you need to think about if you want to explore more options too.
2006-12-19 05:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was working on your car just to be nice. I don't think that meant anything special. If he hasn't called in 3 days, he probably doesn't want anything serious with you still. Think about it though, did he want the time out or you? It was probably his way of breaking up with you gently. It sucks when people do that, but to be completely sure, break the silence and ask him. Make him give you a straight answer so that you can move on.
2006-12-19 05:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex does not equal a relationship or love...even if you were together for several years...you should get out and do somethings for yourself! take some classes you're interested in, volunteer with the United Way, take up a new hobby like roller blading or painting, sculpting or whatever...just do something to get your mind off of the situation so you can get some distance and clarity. stop worrying about where it's going and all that...the answers will come eventually. in the meantime, don't waste your life away!
2006-12-19 05:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by shell92107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes that means that he just needs to figure some things out. What you need to do is get a hobby or something to take your mind off of him. you just need to relax and have fun. He'll come around when he needs to. Don't worry about the fact that he hasn't come around. Just respect the fact that he might need some space.
2006-12-19 05:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would step back for a minute and see what you really feel for this guy. I was in a relationship that ended badly. After we split we had a few physical encounters and gave one another space. I still felt strong about her but I had to think if I wanted to get into it with her again. I finally had to just leave well enough alone an dmove on with my life. It was hard but I feel if I had gotten back together with her I wouldn't really be happy. Just step back and dig deep for what you really feel for this guy.
2006-12-19 05:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, things couldn't have been going well if you both needed space... Unless he asked for space then that means he's giving someone else a test run or you are overbearing and clingy. Don't take offence by this, just giving you something to think about.
2006-12-19 05:24:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋