i like this guy that i've dated before. we got back in touch and started to "date" again. His mom and sisters tell me all the time that he talks about me non stop and that he misses me... A LOT!! I really like him and miss him too but i don't want my heartbroken again but the man i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with. we're the same age and like the same things. He's a great guy, he's going to college to become a teacher and he has great family skills. What should i do should i take him back, or should i shun him like he did to me? I'm really confused. We went on a date last friday and we kissed. I thought i felt something but he acted like it was no big deal. Am i blowing this out of preportion or is this really what it is...? PLEASE HELP....
2006-12-19 05:11:09 · 14 answers · asked by sweet indifference 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've talked to him about how i feel and he told me that he wasn't sure...but i figure he knows but doesn't want to tell me...
2006-12-19 05:15:19 · update #1
just forgive him and open a new page from ur book life
live ur present with him as a new lovers
and prepare for ur future about how is ur life is going to be with him and how u correct faults u made with each other in past
and what is ur planning with him
2006-12-19 05:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should shun him. He's taking you for granted and you're too special of a person to dedicate yourself to a person who seems to act as if you're just like air.
Make him earn your heart back a little. In the meantime, try to date other guys to see if there may be men of better quality than him. If you don't see any one as good, well, stick with him. But who knows, just around the corner could be a very remarkable man who is prepared to love you as much you tend to love people who your heart is committed to.
You don't want to get married, have kids, and then, by the age of 35 have regrets.
2006-12-19 13:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how do you know you want to spend "the rest of your life" with anyone. People grow and change...drastically. He could be Prince Charming one minute and a freaky cheating frog the next. That's why women are always getting their hearts broken. Guys are only interested in one thing and once we get it we're looking for the next challenge. Go with what what feels good for and to you at the time and stop thinking about life long commitments.
2006-12-19 13:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest advice to you is to not let him back into life who rejected you before.You are wasting your time,energy and emotions on him.When a guy says he isnt sure he actually means that he's just not that into you.He's back to you just coz he didnt find anybody better and is still hunting for someone out there.Meanwhile,he is just warming up or using you to pass his time.If he truely loved you he wouldnt have rejected you in the first place.So reconsider this seriously.
If you accept him you are indeed heading towards a heart break which you dont deserve.You have had enough of him and you need to move on.There are many better out there for you.Good Luck!
2006-12-19 13:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is a guy, and probably not sure what he wants right now.
Try the casual dating for a bit, (not getting your hopes up too much) and see how things go for a while. Then have the "talk" all men hate! But give him some time first.
2006-12-19 13:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him upfront how you are feeling. Because the longer you wait and are confused as to what status your relationship is, the worse this situation will get. Just be honest with him and tell him you're into him and want to give it another try but that you don't want him acting the way he did.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-19 13:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, love is very complex and confusing. the person you love has the ability to make you soar, btu also the ability to crush you completely.they are responsoble for you failures and your successes. you live for them and die because of them. love is weird, you can't buy it, you can't sell it. so if it's not yours then it's not yours, you can't make them love you. Look over the relationship, ask yourself about actions not words. Everything happens for a reason.
Just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are good for you or that you are good for them. Contrary to popular belief, just loving someone isn't enough. It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work, a lot of trust, communication and compromise.
If you always fell in love with the person that is perfect for you, women wouldn't get married to abusive drug users and men wouldn't be married to women who belittle them and mock their efforts.
I had a girlfriend once who was like this. She claimed I was the best guy in the universe for her and kept reminding me. But once it was time to get really serious, she cut of her emotions for me like a light switch. I learned later that she just liked the feeling she got being with a nice guy at the moment, but when it came time to really get serious, she bailed, and felt she was done with those feelings and went out to find a bad boy so she could have the "thrill" feelings again.
"What happened to us, happened for good. What is happening to us is happening for good. What will happen to us will happen for our good."
So don't
2006-12-19 13:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him what HE HIMSELF wants out of you and of this relationship. it doesn't matter what his family said, they may like you and think you belong together because you seem like a sweetheart, but the most important thing is to make sure you do not get hurt again, and speak with him honestly and openly. that's' the only way you can tell for sure,
Good luck
2006-12-19 13:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juat take the relationship slow. Dont rush into anything especially if your scared of getting your heart broken. IF he is serious about you this time then let him prove it to you, but dont get your hopes up!
2006-12-19 13:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him as often as you want but don't take it too seriously. Have fun together (except hold off intercourse.) Don't expect him to drop all his friends for you, and similarly don't drop your own friend for him.
2006-12-19 13:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋