He wants me to have sex with him , he is my first I am 22 years he is the same age , He wondering if I am okay with it first, and when can we do it ? We have been dating for about 3-to 4 months should I or not can you help me ? Is it to yearly ?
2006-12-19 05:05:05 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you know if you are ready. If you feel you are and you not going to regret it, then go for it.
However dont feel that you HAVE to, dont let him push you into it.
22 is not too early.... im sure that their are plenty of girls who have done it before reaching 22.
You waiting so long, obviously shows that this is really important to you, and you dont want to waste it on just ´anyone´, i respect that. He should also know this about you, knowing that this is important to you.
2006-12-19 05:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you....you are 22 and you have remained "pure" this long for whatever reasons....
Is he worth the reason you plan to give up your virginity... Chances are, if you are on yahoo answers discussing this with a bunch of strangers, you are not yet ready.
This is a huge step and actually, in today's day and age, I am surprised to learn that he didn't run when you didn't give it up right away. Maybe he is a special guy.
Only you really know the answer to your question. Consider it, as well as any intended or unintended consequenses if you decide this is the right thing for you.
Discuss it with him and just make sure to follow your heart and your "gut".
2006-12-19 05:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there...
Well I don't want to put pressure on you, but I also think with 22 you're old enough and 3-4months is the right time!
But if you don't feel like it or are afraid then you might not be ready for this step! Why don't you talk to your bf about the way you think and feel on this subject? I mean after 3-4months you should know him that good that you know he wont laugh at you or makes any bad comments. If you don't know about his reaction he might not be the right guy for your first time.
2006-12-19 05:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - spellcheck and punctuation will help people take you seriously. If you can't communicate clearly in a simple post, then it might be difficult for you to communicate openly with your partner, and that could lead to major relationship problems down the road.
Next - just because he wants to have sex, doesn't mean you have to, or that you're not a good girlfriend if you don't. No one else can tell you when you're ready - it has to be something you know for sure deep down inside yourself. Personally, I think if you have to ask, if you have even the slightest doubt, then you're not ready. You're less likely to regret waiting than you are to regret doing something you weren't ready for.
Ask yourself how you feel about your boyfriend, your relationship, and your body. Do you trust him? Are you willing and ready to discuss STDs, condoms, birth control, pregnancy with him? Are both of you willing to be responsible and take reasonable precautions? Do you love him - and does he love you? Know yourself, and then you won't doubt yourself when other people try bossing you around.
2006-12-19 05:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this question, you obviously don't feel comfortable with having sex with him now. Let the relationship develop more and if he gets upset that you aren't ready and tries to get pushy about it, then he isn't the person you want in your life. Since you are still a virgin, you obviously value yourself and are saving yourself for that someone special so don't let anyone push you into anything you don't want to do. You will know when the time and person is right and won't have to ask anybody.
2006-12-19 05:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, That is truly up to you, but if you were really ready, you wouldn't be asking.You see, especially speaking of someone of your age.You have come a long way above alot of young women to bring yourself into your 20's and still not pursued sex to its fullest.You must have heart felt reasons for doing so.So, use them feelings that have gotten you this far to be the one to decide when its time.
You still have all the time you need to do so, if he is the man for you, he will respect what ever you decide.Besides that, the idea of something is almost always better than the real thing.If this was not true there wouldn't be so much desire for fantasy in all of our minds.
Good luck and remember, make this decision for you, and no one else.
2006-12-19 05:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask random strangers on an internet questions board, then you should absolutely NOT sleep with him.
Never ask random people these kinds of questions. That is your body and your personal decision to make. If you are 22 years old, you should know if you want to or not, or if you are ready. So think about it and figure out what you want to do and what you are comfortable with.
2006-12-19 05:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It truely depends on how you feel. If you feel like you want to, they by all means, yes. If you feel like you "should", then maybe not. I will say that 3-4 months is long enough to be with someone before having sex. By this time, if you guys were not good for each other, you probably would not still be together.
2006-12-19 05:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by MissKristen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask it doesn't sound like you are ready. You will know when you are ready and when you want to. If the person is right you probably wouldn't question it. Don't be pressured in to something you do not feel ready or comfortable with. Good Luck.
2006-12-19 05:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Hope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's really no specific time frame on having sex. If you are ready, you will know it. If you are 22 and still a virgin, you have probably waited for a reason. Don't let him pressure you into it!
2006-12-19 05:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by chizzylene 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋