i really like this guy in college. we both chat to each other regularly on msn and get along very well (hes in my class in college) i dont know how he feels about me but everyone who i ask says either i should come out straight and tell him how i feel or that i shouldnt say anything as this might ruin a great friendship. they also say that if we were to date and then we broke up whilst in college years then it would be awkward and hard for me to face up to, since hes in the same class as me. so is it right for me to want to move things further or would i be ruining a good friendship?
2006-12-19 05:04:17 · 25 answers · asked by Shaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am in same situation as u.. exactly same. what i would suggest you is to find out for sure if he likes u back before moving on with things... else, u'll be ruining a great friendship. when u r perfectly sure he likes u back, then u take the step forward.
try knowing if he likes u back thru his actions, his body langauge, the signs he throws at u.. try ignoring him a few days (on msn also) and see what he does..
Gd Luck Shaz.
2006-12-19 05:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with someone doesn't necessarily ruin the friendship, even if you break up. Friendships only get ruined if the break up is bad, like one of you cheats or lies or something bad. It is totally possible to stay friends after a break up and it is a GOOD idea to go out with guys that you are friends with. It means you have something to base the relationship on i.e. you have more in common than just romantic stuff. It also means that you know him fairly well and aren't putting yourself in danger by going out with someone you don't know.
PS this is going to sound old-fashioned but delaying or avoiding sex is a way to keep the relationship low-key so as to avoid the bad-break up. I'm not against sex particularly, its just that a lot of people put heavy emotional tags onto sex and it does complicate things.
2006-12-19 05:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a tough one. I'm assuming that he's free and single for you to ask him if he feels the same. If he is then only you can judge it. In my experience, especailly if you're in college and going out enjoying yourself, then invite him on a night out, have a few drinks and flirt with him. If he responds, then you can take it further but if he backs away, you can always change the subject and blame it on the drink the next day to continue as normal!! Do you really want to become romantically involved with this guy, or is it just companionship you want? The other option is to leave yourself free and single, let him see you around other guys, and if he likes you as you like him, this might just tempt him into asking you out. Like I say, it's a really tough one and completely your decision, but if he's a genuine friend, he won't mind you asking him out even if his answer is no, and your relationship should continue as before. Good Luck!!
2006-12-19 05:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nick J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move things further yet, since you both are still in the same class keep the friendship strong and continue to study him and get to know if he has the same feelings you have.
2006-12-19 05:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Impossible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people have been in this predicament at some point, i know i have!!
Well from past experience i say ask him out, life is too short to keep putting barriers between you and the things you want. If he is as nice as you say then even if he does not want to go out with you then im sure you both will be adult enough to stay friends.
Good luck babe xxx
2006-12-19 05:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you're doing is talking, can you really even call it a "friendship" yet? Real friends have something in common, & if you haven't even met, face to face, how do you know you even like him? At the moment, he just seems to be someone in your class, who you share emails with. It's hardly a case of "friendship turning into love" is it?
2006-12-19 05:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Tell him how you feel, and ask him to tell you how he honestly feels about you. If he doesn't feel the same way as you, look elsewhere for love. Even if the love thing doesn't work out, you can still be friends.
2006-12-19 05:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by mcmustang1992 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if u r a girl. yes if u r a guy. cause when guy want woo a girl the girl don like they will still b friend. but if a girl woo a guy the guy don like they will not b friend forever. N im sure he only treat u as 1 OF HIS best FRIENDs. so don feel so sad about this. wish u will find a better one. k
2006-12-19 05:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. My current boyfriend and I were friends for about 6 months, when we finally came fourth with our feelings, we both felt the same way and now we've been together for three years!
2006-12-19 05:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Tell him the truth because the longer you stayed wrapped up about him, the more time you waste not being with the person you could be with.
2006-12-19 05:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋