2006-12-19 04:56:42 · 30 answers · asked by kiwi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on how you broke up, last Saturday mine told me I had ruined his life then he yelled at me and hung up on me.I think it would be really difficult for us to be friends, but I am still friends with my teenage boyfriend, we are still really good friends
2006-12-19 05:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hello. Well personally i think its best if you don't stay friends after a break up. But as everyone is saying, it depends on the break- up and the reasons for it. I think its good to be civil to your ex and say hello in the street etc but as far as spending a lot of time with that person i.e going out for a drink every week, talking over the phone - it will damage you and them emotionally. The moving on process will be so much quicker and simpler if there is no communication and there will be no expectations or wishful thinking on either part. However i get bitter myself about this issue as i've just broke up with someone who i thought was 'the one' and i felt i wasted my time. 'Strawberries to pigs' and all that! Each relationship is a learning curve and a the next one you have will be even better i believe. What is the main reason people break up anyway that's what i'd like to know!!
2006-12-19 05:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with a few of my exes. Although, they happen to be the ones that *I* broke up with. They seem to always be there for me still if I need something. It does depend on how you guys broke up and why. Not everyone can do it. The exes that I am not friends with is more so because we have lost touch. Ex boyfriends are great for advice at times. They do know you in a way many people dont.
2006-12-19 05:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by MissKristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience, I needed space before I was able to see or talk to my ex again. He had done quite a few things that hurt me and I couldn't handle interaction at the time. After I broke it off and got enough time to heal I was able to engage in brief friendly chats---But our relationship is verrry far from a friendship, lol. I think I prefer to keep it that way :D.
I think the difficulty of such a situation is most dependent on the personalities of the persons involved and the situation which lead to the break up. There are those instances where an ex's past actions make the prospect of maintaining a friendship pretty undesirable. Some persons aren't able to easily overcome rejection and others simply find it difficult to get over the past negatives of the relationship. I guess if a relationship was founded on a good friendship and simply ended due to lack-of-compatibility issues, that person may find it easier to remain friends :).
2006-12-19 07:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO its not hard at all especially if you were FRIENDS before the mushy stuff came along. If you had a special bond between one another which just somehow got pushed aside when the lovey dovey thing happened............I think its possible to at least take it back to that spot and make sure it is clear that whatever happened as BF and GF is a whole other relationship. The one that your trying to save is the one they had before all that started.
If your a little head strong and don't take no for an answer then the other person will have to agree that they were happier when you were both happy looking at other people be dumb.........
................think about it...........................
2006-12-19 05:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by MsEagleTX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. It depends on the seriousness of the relationship. Some of the guys I'm friends with now started out as people I dated. There just wasn't anything between us. The one guy I was ever serious about, now thats a different story. Whenever I am dating someone new there is always a bit of jealousy there.
2006-12-19 05:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if it was bad break up and female mentality. I use to find it hard because my first relationship ending badly. My first love mentally abuse me. I met him when I was fifteen and called off when I seventeen. It took me three years to speak to him. I had hatred in my heart and sorrow. I felt bad that I let it happen. I not friends with him now but when see him on the street speak to him. I even forgave him for what he did for to me. My second relationship my mate cheated on me and did not treat me as an equal. He was nine years older than me and he treated me like a child. We broke because he got station to Japan. I spent three years loving him even though our relationship only lasted six months. I forgave him and let go all negative feelings that I had. I had let it go for me so I could move on. Forgiveness is hard to do but is necessary to do because must let go all negative feelings and disappoints relationship may bring.
2006-12-19 05:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, on the break up, how long you were together, there are many reason's why it can and can't work.
I am still friends with only three of my Ex boyfriends, but we were friends before we started dated, and teh breakups were mutual..
2006-12-19 05:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of my relationships have been very passionate and intense. It's hard for awhile after a break up, but when you discover the friendship underneath that was there in the first place, you can remain friends. I have.
2006-12-19 05:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Reo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how involved you were with this ex-boyfriend, who decided to break up, and whether he is willing to be just an ex-boyfriend. He may be willing if you are still giving him benefits.
2006-12-19 05:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends, i was with a guy for 10 months and he broke up with me and we ended on really bad terms, we go to school together and we dont even look at eachother then i dated a guy for about a year and we mutually broke up with eachother and we are still friends today and talk almost every day. i guess it all depeneds on how u end with that person and how ur feelings are.... but make sure ur not bending over backwards just to be friends with your ex's its not worth it
2006-12-19 05:07:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋