Hi all I ended up rd with a guy on a drunken night out had sex etc then he asked to see me again so I gave him my number as he asked but he wanted to come up to my house which I felt thats not what I expected I expected for him to take me out for a drink etc s I told him how about going for a few drinks so he did take me out and it went fine following week he asked to come up to mines again I said no as I felt he was getting to familar too quick so he asked to come up to mines again & I said I would like to go to pictures or sumthing so he said "I'l need to see what the cash flow is like but hes always got money to go out with his mates every Sat and to buy is dope so as u can imagine I feel I'm being used & want to call it off meeting him again anyone any ideas feel hes just wanting to sleep with me and hes tight with his money when it comes to women pls help as sometimes i'm too quick to judge
2006-12-19 04:47:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not too quick to judge this guy, walk away now.
We all sleep with guys too soon and that's when they expect it all the time and only use you for that purpose. Cut him out of your life and next time you meet someone you think you might like try going out first before you sleep with them. It took me along time to figure that one out.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-19 05:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said, you've just presented yourself (originally) as an easy lay. If he cannot afford to date or would rather spend his money elsewhere, then let him...if you're willing to be just a "friend with benefits" that's fine...but if you want more, then make it clear that y'all jumped the gun originally and there won't be any hanging out at your place and fooling around until some type of relationship is established and you both decide that intimacy is an appropriate step to take (again)...
2006-12-19 04:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So you slept with him once straight away and then you want to act all coy and say lets take it slowly....
why didn't you take it slowly from the start? Then the poor bloke probably wouldn't mind.
At the moment he must wonder what on earth is going on and think that you are wasting his time.
If you want to see him again you probably need to talk to him in detail about your complete uturn on the speed of the relationship.
I think that he made up the thing about money to get out of another fruitless date.
If you want to take things slow and get to know him why would going to the pictures help? You can't talk to each other there.
2006-12-19 04:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by delphi13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The bigger question is - what do you want?
If you want something casual, then hook up once in a while (use protection always please).
If you are looking for someone that you care about and will care for you than don't hang out at bars.
What happens if you get a std or pregnant? Was it worth it to hook up with him?
2006-12-19 04:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he is buying dope and you still want to go out with him? How about picking a good guy with a brain? This guy will be someone to avoid in a few years...go pick someone with an education.
2006-12-19 05:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Free Girl Now 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to use some punctuation marks, cos that's confusing to read.
But from what I could deduce, he is an idiot and treating you like one.
You are being used, move on now.
2006-12-19 07:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all hun, although I hate to say it, you went to bed with him far too soon...he now realises that you are easy game so to speak, so he wont spend his money on you...forget him and be a little more reluctant to slepp with anyone on a first date...not judging you but I know how men see these things.
2006-12-19 04:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me that he just wants to have sex with you. I'd dump him asap and find someone else if I were you.
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2006-12-19 04:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him and spend the time in a class on writing, speaking and learning about the English language in general.
2006-12-19 04:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
you been used
2006-12-19 04:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋