I've been with this girl for 6 weeks now, things started off great, the intimacy and chemistry was there, and I was very excited. We had one bad date after she heard some news about her sister that she won't talk about (and whom I have not met) and since then she has been very distant, disinterested, and moody. The last 3 dates the kisses have been simple pecs, the hugs have been light, and the compliments and conversation scarce. I try intiating things, but she distances herself, yet when I ask to see her she still wants to see me. I am confused. I am in the middle of my grad school finals and am unsure if she is still interested or if she is planning on breaking up with me once my exams are over. She doesn't always return my calls, in fact, I am the only one calling most of the time. Our last date she was more open intimacy wise, asked if she could give me a massage. Am I worrying over nothing? Her change in behavior since the news has made me nervous, what should I do?
2006-12-19 04:45:38 · 8 answers · asked by MichiganFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude..in the first date, she called your bluff! So what's left for you...
2006-12-19 04:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how you feel and ask her why she is being distant from you. Ask here if she needs space to clear things up or if you can help in any way and grant the space if she needs it. She shouldn't be taking out her problems or especially other peoples problems out on you. It isn't fair to leave you in the dark and treat you cold. I would say you have a good taste of her character now and you can see how she handles situations. So now ask your self this: Do you like how she communicates things with you? If not you can see she will never be a good communicator in your relationship and you will always have problems. Good communication is a BIG deal in a great relationship. Communication is a part of trusting someone with confidence at listening and not to judge one and openness etc.....
2006-12-19 13:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her frankly about this. You don't need the worry hanging over you near finals, and even if she did end it, then at least you'd KNOW and could work on dealing with that...worry is more upsetting than working through a break up.
If you can't get anything solid out of her, then let her do the initiating of contact for a while...you've got important thinks go focus on and a flaky g/f who won't communicate isn't where your attentions need to be right now...
2006-12-19 12:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry over her breaking up with you, she told you she got bad news about her sister so why do you think she is gonna dump you?? maybe you should believe her and she will tell you about her sister when and if she is ready. You have only been together for 6 weeks [not along time] so it probably wouldn't be a devastating break up anyway. Don't be so insecure because that may drive her away.
2006-12-19 12:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that no matter what her personal problems are. By her not returning your calls she is being inconsiderate and trust me when girls do that it is usually because we are out with someone else. You definitely need to have a heart to heart and tell her that you find things awkward. If she is still hot and cold move on to something better. There are more fish in the sea.
2006-12-19 12:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i would just give her some space for a little while, let her think about that news that she got, maybe she needs to go back to see her sister or something, she needs to get over the news that she heard..
BUT let her know that you are there if she ever wants to talk or just be there for her ok..
hearing bad news about a sister, and if their close is alway going to take a little while to get over.she will come around.
just give her time ok
good luck hun
2006-12-19 12:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to open up with you, and be as friends, or you will always be "walking on eggshells" in dealing with her. Is she worth it? You've only known her for 6 wks, and, afterall, dating is for interviewing people as potential mates. She may not be a match for you. You need to find someone to share everything with you, jokes, laughs, sorrows and pains.
She needs to let you in to her world!
121906 2:23
2006-12-19 15:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man get out of the relationship
2006-12-19 12:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Brett S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋