How long does it takes for a girl to get over a guy?

Question

I like this girl but she broke off with her bf 6 months back. Though i didnt really date her out, we text each other a lot. I bought her gift and her fav food stuff whenever she has the craving. I did hint so much to her and i like her.

Recently the texting gone short. It seem she got some problems. She did told me 3 months ago she got over it and she is alright ( I did help her get over it during her sad period). I got a feeling she is unsure about love now. From her character i know she is a very devoted lover. How long should i wait before i make my move? because if i goes in too early i may suffer a rebound.

Answer 1

How long was she going out with this guy? I had a boyfriend for 6 months & he broke up with me. It took me about 5 months to truly get over him. Give her maybe a month more. But still don't be bluntly obvious about anything. Ease her into the relationship and respect her feelings if she is still grieving over her ex. A great girl is worth waiting for =)

Answer 2

You never know in situations like these. It may take a couple more months, it may take a year.
All I can say is keep doing what you're doing. Hold off until the right time so it doesn't look like you're taking advantage of her vulnerability.
And keep in mind.....A rebound can always have the potential to turn into something great. I know from experience. My current bf was a rebound of another guy, and he has helped me so much by getting over the guy and starting over. I should say that the last guy I was with, was probably the man of my dreams. But my current bf has helped me get over him and move on. He's shown me that there are still great men out there.....even when they are right under your nose.
Soon, she'll notice it. She'll realize that she is starting to smile more.....and she'll realize that its you that's making it happen. If you love her, you've got all the time in the world. And you can prove that to her by waiting.

Answer 3

Ahhh...this is sad. Man...you want to be her lover or her friend?

It could be late for you to make your move. Probably you re already in the "friends" pit, a hell where is very hard to come out.

Do you know how much time do a girl needs to get over a guy? as fast as she finds someone else to fall in love.

To fall in love she needs to get attractted to a man, not to a "friend" that understands her needs, that buys her what she wants...thats sad.

She's been using you. U bought her a lot of stuff but she'll never be with you if u behave like that.

Get rid of her. She doesnt care about you, she just wants your gifts and your shoulder, even when she knows you are interested in her. Thats selfish.

Answer 4

It will take about a year.

The process of mourning a lost love has it's ups and downs. There are periods of feeling good and at peace, followed by periods of anger and sadness. The periods of feeling good will continue to prolong themselves as time goes by. Beware! A wounded person can inflict tremendous pain on others.

Answer 5

Sometimes girls never forget a guy that they truly were in love with. Girls really do fall in love and it's nothing like the lust that guys have for girls. Women have extremely long memories for good and bad. You'll be constantly compared to her favorite. Get use to it.

Answer 6

yea depends on how long her and her ex were dating. if it was casual then she should be able to get over it quickly; if it was a long term one, then it takes time. she may even think about him when she's w/ you and that may piss u off.
she's probably not ready 100%. just show her you care for her and be there. when she's ready she'll let you know. dont overdo it in case.

Answer 7

Man, you worry too much. :-)
The sad thing is, if I had to try and (over) simplify interactions with women into equations it'd be something like this:
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Bad-ish relationship = 1/2(sexuality and surprise) - 1/4(mean-ness) + 3/4(power (social and money): gifts)
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Decent relationship = 2(sexuality and surprise) - 2/4(meanness) + 1/4 or less(power (social and money): gifts)\
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Fling = (sexuality and surprise)^2 - 1/10(meanness) + 1/4 or less(power (social and money): gifts)
OR
Prostituion-ish Fling = (power (social and money: gifts))^2 (unfortunately, long as the payment is in gifts not actual money, these happen a good deal and there is no law against them)
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I'm 26 and I have seen a lot. Girls who break up with their boyfriends and keep guys around to take care of them are often bad news in two ways:
1) They are weak in self-discipline: most often they have good female friends they disregard and concentrate on the dead relationship when they should be cherishing the friends they have. Even if you did get this girl to become your girlfriend you'd likely feel tedium and frustration with of her lack of emotional control in limited dating activities, need to justify herself socially in front of friends (sometimes against you), and other annoying issues: you may well end up breaking up with her in this case (I have for girls like that).
2) In reaction, They pick guy friends instead to make them feel popular so they can snag the next guy (most often NOT one of those friends because they have "very little minuses but almost no pluses" in the above equations). In other words, more often than not, they are NOT looking for support in the long-run and say "I'm alright" in some way or another then move to a non-friend.
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Sad to tell you, this girl sounds like bad news. If you want her for, say a fling or a way to get better so you have more to give for the next girl (which, in odd fact, is really the strongest form of giving in teenage years), then I would say do not wait a bit:

Next time you see her near evening time and she talks to you tell her you are going somewhere and she can come. Then go do something you have to do anyhow (shopping, homework, etc.) and have HER help you with it not the other way around. Then say you're going out to do something athletic and a bit devious that you are better at than her (such as a long run/skate or hard game of tennis) and again say she can come. If you can wear her out physically her sexual hormones will be raging. Then say you feel like jumping in a pool skinny dipping or something equally devious (she probably will be plenty hot and feel like it also), if she mentions "are you doing this to try and..." say "I'm doing this because I feel like it, deal with it". By now you should be the man in control and out of the "damned" friend category because you make your own decisions and they are most likely more surprising than what she would think of herself. In the pool look her in the eyes, don't feel any guilt about it (you're giving her probably the best she's ever had because you've got her emotions), if she looks for more than a few seconds just kiss her. If you are really lucky she will stop giving you emotional excuses, lay her emotional problems on some other poor guy, and become your upbeat boyfriend, but, on the other hand, don't count on it: do count on that you will have the skills down fairly well and likely won't be the back-up guy for the next girl you are interested in.

Before you say "how the heck is this going to work?" let's just say I turned a girl from trying to make me buy her a day at the spa (expensive as heck) to begging me for naughty things and paying for my dinner after we did them.

The lesson here: the scope of teenage-ish "dating" is VERY different than adult dating your goal is to gain experience and get VERY good at surprising women and not feeling guilty about admitting, while you are nice, you can be as good at being dirty as someone who is not: you have the big plusses without the small minuses.

Then, when you get to be 22 or so, you can start shifting gear to having someone who likes you more for being individual (hobbies, values, things outside making her popular) and thinks you are surprising even when you are not making her hot. But as for the teenage years, don't feel guilty feel competitive.

Answer 8

reality...who knows. if u really like this girl, be there for her at all times especially when she needs the company. be a friend who listens and supports her. be visible. and eventually, when she's ready she will move on. and i am sure that you are the first to notice the changes in her. be patient and steadfast... and then when she arrives to that point...make your move!

Answer 9

There is no sure way to know...It all depends how honest she is to her and you...as far as how long to wait thats all up to you...but be careful before you know it your trapped and then it can cause great heart pain..good luck

Answer 10

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