Would this be a deterrent for my 4 year old son?
2006-12-19 04:21:43 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We dont do soap...we do a dab of hot sauce on the tongue for our 4yr old and it works.
And for anyone who says its child abuse go ahead and call DCF, hell I'll dial for ya!...and while your at it report my pediatrician because he is the one who recommended it.
Soap in the mouth is not child abuse, don't listen to these dumbasses. If you had posted you spank you child they'd be tracking your address down to call the cops on you. Not everyone's parenting style is the same so dont tell someone they are abusing their child just because its not right for you and your family. Get over yourselves.
2006-12-19 05:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, washing his mouth out with soap is not an effective deterrent and can cause gastrointestinal problems (stomach problems). Using consistent discipline, i.e., taking away priviledges for the "smart" mouth, putting in timeout, etc. as a penalty for the back talking and smart mouthing can help. Whatever you decide to do to handle the problem (nothing abusive!), be consistent. After the punishment has been set for the crime and is enforced, talk to your child about the situation afterward. Ask him if he understands why he was punished and get him to tell you other things he could have done instead of mouth off. Get him to open up about why he talked back. Sometimes solving the problem is as easy as defining the problem... Consistency is key!!!
2006-12-19 05:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by In The Same Boat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use something different than cleansing soap. With my childrens - if I caught them saying something quite mean (in no way had a controversy with swearing, yet...) to somebody (buddy, sibling, whoever) and whilst they have been instructed to say sorry and why it quite is not ok, in the event that they did it back - then they had be on 2nd or third offense right this is what I did: One HATES soy sauce - i might provide her a drop or 2. One HATES pickles - a small spoonful of pickle juice etc - It wasn't risky, they weren't allergic, it replaced into my "end of the line" dicipline. i did no longer like what replaced into popping out of their mouth - so as that they've been given something they did no longer like entering into. i wouldn't in any respect use tobasco or something that should harm them - it replaced into greater for result and getting my factor by way of. They have been between 3-5 whilst this replaced into maximum effectual. After that - they lost prized posessions. Now they are infants and that i will take ipods, desktops, something digital and that they are disenchanted. I in no way used cleansing soap through chemical factors - it wasn't my purpose to lead them to ill, i needed to make an impact.
2016-10-15 06:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by corbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but it's a bad idea. You lock up all your cleaning supplies and then you're going to stick soap in your child's mouth?
Ignore the talking back & smart mouth. Don't even give it the attention of yelling or a "time out". Walk away and refuse to engage with him. Say, "I only listen when you speak to me in a nice way". Kids don't keep up behavior that doesn't elicit a response.
2006-12-19 04:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying time out and other forms of punishment first. If that doesn't work, then go for the soap in the mouth.
Spanking works good too, if you spank hard enough for them to feel it but not too hard so it will leave a mark. And l do agree, spanking is not child abuse, sometimes it is necessary.
Good luck to you
2006-12-19 05:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good mom. Thats how more parents should be.Todays parents usually have spoiled little brats. Im raising four boys and they would never talk back because they know they will get into trouble. They are very respectful kids and we are raising them the same way we were raised. Todays parents need to stop trying to be the friend of the child and start being parents. Kids are handled with such white gloves now days. Get a grip and learn to take control. Good for you for raising decent kids. Thats a wonderful thing. You will be happy with the results in the end. You will see :)
2006-12-19 05:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a form of child abuse and if caught you could be investigated! Yes, while I don't understand why...it just is. As for a four year old who back talks and has a smart mouth...where is he learning this from? Might want to look into that as at this age they are infamous for copying what they see more so as when they get older!
2006-12-19 04:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was for me, I remember that.
And it's not like my mom poured liquid Dial down my throat, she swiped my tongue with a bar soap from the shower (thinking about that now, double ew) followed by ample water to rinse and spit it back out. She didn't shove the whole bar in my mouth or make me chew on chips of it. She only had to do this once, and I wasn't more than 4 1/2 at the time.
2006-12-19 04:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know someone who did that. The mom put a bar of soap in her childs mouth and made him hold it there for 60 seconds. When she took the soap out of his mouth he said 'that tasts like 'it'. Except he used the 'sh' word
2006-12-19 06:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, depends on the boy's personality. I prefer a "time out" type of thing, or taking away something they enjoy as a detterent for bad behavior. It becomes less of a "what you're gonna get if you talk back" (a threat) to "no tv tonight if you do that again" promise.
But you have to follow up and be consistent for anything to work.
2006-12-19 05:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋