2006-12-19 04:13:24 · 10 answers · asked by Suzanne P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you think it will get better? Are you a "fix it" person? Nothing is going to change. You need to leave if he's that bad. Where is your self esteem and dignity?
2006-12-19 04:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not love him.....You are infatuated with him. Love is mutual. Controlling men do not love the way you do. Just think, would you want your future children around this man? Would you risk your future children's lives as well as your own? I've watched crap like this happen. It doesn't matter if you love him or not........LEAVE NOW. And find someone to support you so he doesn't return and try to hurt you. Get a restraining order if you have to.....just keep your distance from him and move on the best way you know how.
Besides, you don't need a man to validate your own self worth. Be single for a while....wait for the right man. Wait for that man that'll sweep you off your feet and treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
2006-12-19 12:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is indeed hard to leave a man you love but is controlling your life and you are afraid. You just have to encourage yourself to face the facts and say that despite his lovingness that you can't take him controlling you and you have to figure out when you want to leave and make sure when you know he won't be around for awhile and just leave him a note if you have not tried telling him that you just don't think that it is going to work anymore and you must move just hope that he is not really violent and wants to beat you for leaving him , really you should not give him that option. Whatever you do choose wisely what you plan to do and make sure you won't have any problems and if you have to bring someone with you that you can trust that will not mind coming with you for support and incase anything happens.
2006-12-19 12:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a nickle everytime some woman has asked this question. I don't know where these men come from but I REALLY don't know how they meet women like this. It is so hard to find someone who you want to spend time with.. how in the world does this happen so often?
Well.. #1 you have to respect yourself enough to say that if you arent happy in the situation then you need to get the hell out. You might think you love him but you need to love yourself way more than you need some controlling dude stepping all over you.
#2 are you married to him? or dating him? What makes him controlling? Obviously you arent happy whatever these answers are so start getting ready to leave.
If by controlling you mean "Abusive" then you need to call your local police or maybe a huge friend with a gun to come over so you can get out of there.
Love is great.. argue all you want.. but your life is so much more important than "what ifs"
2006-12-19 12:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not love you feel believe me. And a man that is controlling doesn't show love. All he knows now to do is make you feel less of a person, destroy your self esteem and confidence. Don't see how you think you love that....Better yourself and get out and leave the trash behind!
2006-12-19 12:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him honestly that you would prefer to stay with him,but his controlling nature isnt making it easier for you to stay.You can ask him does he really need to be controlling or can he change his behavior for the sake of keeping the relationship.If he doesnt agree to make any efforts to change himself,do yourself a favour by moving on.
If he truely loves you he would never be dominating.He should respect you.I am glad that you have decided to let him go.Yeah you should in order to save yourself a lot of grief.Brave girl.I admire you.Detach yourself from his strings.I know its hard but eventually you will be able to walk past him.You deserve to get lots of love,care,respect and compassion from a man.
2006-12-19 12:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on exactly how controlling and for what reason. If he is abusive in any way. If there are children involved. Love doesn't always "solve" a problem. Have you tried counseling?
2006-12-19 12:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you gotta do! do it when you're ready, though. only you know this man and his ways so do what you gotta do whatever way works for you. make sure you leave though. its not worth your life or the stress you will continue to endure. of course you will still love him but you got to know when to let go also.
2006-12-19 12:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him you love the security feeling. That being in a relationship and everyday is set. Step out of your comfort zone and get out before he beats the crap out of you.
2006-12-19 12:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself first and formost!!!!
Please leave for your own safety!!!
You FEEL you love him? Do you love him or not?
2006-12-19 12:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by shirah_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋