ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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21 minutes ago
when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
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49 minutes ago
this is her latest message
hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!
<3 (name)
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2 days ago
i dont want to know what u people think i should do . .. just want to know what u think she is thinking
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this is the latest message i just got tonight
heyyyyyyy (name)....are you done not talking to me yet?? just wonderin if you wanted to hang out sometime or atleast come visit and see my house!! well please get back to me and let me know!! :)
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19 minutes ago
she just sent me another email saying that she wants me to come to her birthday party . .. now why would she want me to come if he is going to be there . . . it would only cause trouble and be really awkward on top of that
2006-12-19 04:08:18 · 17 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run!!!!!!!!!!!
If this were a guy doing this to a girl he would be arrested for stalking.....
2006-12-19 04:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
She wants to still be friends. Maybe she doesn't know you hate the guy she's dating as much as you really do. She obviously wants to stay in cantact and you're not giving her that. Atleast just say "hello" once in a while. You never know, she could still like you a little. You said she only went with the guy because she was lonely. Tell her in person how you feel. Don't text her or call her. She might react differently than other girls. Just to be safe, I'd tell her in person.
2006-12-19 04:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by anyonomous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is clammering for attention. Her current bf isn't giving her the attention she needs so she's coming to you for it.....because she can't find it anywhere else. If you ask me, I think she is immature. People who postpone a 2 year relationship so they can "date around" and "see what's out there" is really immature and stupid. The only thing "around" are stupid horny guys who wouldn't dream of having long term relationships. She missed the "newness" of starting a relationship. She's not ready to settle down. And when it blew up in her face, she comes crawling back to you, expecting you to feel sorry for her and return to her. Nah, I think you're doing the right thing by ignoring her. She's still a little girl. She has a lot of growing up to do.
2006-12-19 04:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants you back in her life as a friend. She has not said I want to be with you or I f-ed up by breaking up with you, but rather hey-- how's it going, breezy stuff.. She probably misses you in her life because after 2 years of being together, she probably feels like she has lost her best friend. This is all my opinion and I can be completely wrong. I would send a text bad saying.. I don't know what you want from me, what do you want from me. How pathetic of her to be begging you to be in her life.
2006-12-19 04:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and let her date who she wants. your already broken up so you need to move on. If she's nice enough to be friends with then just be friends. Maybe this guy isin't so bad after all, people can change. if you answer her emails then she'll stop sending them. just tell her how you really feel without being an asshole.
2006-12-19 04:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, you said she wanted to date around and see what was out there? thats exactly what she did. and she is not at all happy with the results. dont even waste your time contacting her, you have wasted enough time in those two years that she just threw away. and now you know that saying is true...the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
2006-12-19 04:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know what she's thinking, then ask her. If you want her to stop messaging you, tell her to stop. Apparently she's assuming that silence is consent (to continue contact) and so will keep it up until she gets bored trying...depending on the type of person she is that could be days or months down the road.
No mind readers here...if you want to know what someone is thinking, ask them...if you don't like their behavior, tell them...wishing it would go away doesn't tend to accomplish anything.
2006-12-19 04:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she's just sadistic and wants to hurt you (only you would know whether she's like that or not) or ... perhaps she isn't really satisfied in her relationship with him and is testing the waters to see if she could get you back or not, because she doesn't sound like the type to just break up with him and not be sure if she can get back into her relationship with you.
2006-12-19 04:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She thinks she can have her pie and eat it as well. Very immature and her sense of what relationships are seems to be lacking!
General rule is if they dumped you once for another guy, they will again!
Tell her to buzz off, find a good relationship and move on!
Fleetwood Mack had a song titled "Quit Dragging My Heart Around"! Only if you let them!
2006-12-19 04:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's just trying to have her cake and eat it too. She knows that she has a new bf and that there are still feelings between the two of you and she's trying to play ball on both sides of the fence. She may be trying to hurt you.
2006-12-19 04:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question to you would be how sure are you that she hasn't ended the other relationship?! She definitely seems smitten, especially with the unrelenting e-mails. Ignoring her must be driving her nuts.
2006-12-19 04:13:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋