Whats the best way to cope with the death of a loved one?

Answer 1

That your loved one is not far away. Life does not end with death, it is just passing to another place. Your loved one would not want you to grieve forever...but find your happiness, and go on with life. You carry in your heat a light from your loved one and let it shine, so you may pass it on. This is how I deal with death. Blessings to you...

Answer 2

It is hard to cope with it. I lost my big brother coming upon 6 years ago. Time hasn't helped because it still feels like it was yesterday. The pain is just as bad as the day it happened. I think the key is atempting to accept the fact that they are free from pain and the eivls of the world. Though I still haven't been able to accept the fact that he is gone, I visit him regularly. I talk to him, I look at old pictures of us together and remember the good times we had. It helped me a lot to talk about him every chance I could. I speak of him as if he's still alive because he is in my heart and I remain hopefull that one day I will see him again and that's what keeps me going. Also the fact that I know he would not want me to be in pain helps me try to keep my composure when holidays come around and I begin to miss him really bad. Time will not heal all wounds. I realized that that pain never goes away, it becomes part of you. You will never be "okay" with the fact that your loved on is gone, but at some point you will come to terms with the fact that they are gone and attempt to cope with your new reality. I pray for my brother every night and remember his spirit and his life. I talk to him when I visit him and I do not cease to mention him in conversation. Different people have different coping mechanisms they use to deal with the loss of a loved one, so there is no one answer on how to best cope. Just remember to let the emotions out. Don't keep them bottled inside. Some nights I ball my eyes out over my brother b/c I miss him and it helps. There's nothing wrong with showing volunerability and releasing your pain. Just be sure to let the emotions out and talk to God or someone that you trust to reveal your emotions to. God Bless!

Answer 3

The best way is to have a firm belief in the eternal nature of life. Knowing that the loved one is still alive in a spiritual existence and that when we die, we will be able to be with them again. In other words, death is just a temporary separation. Think of it as an extended trip without the benefit of mail or phone messages. It is lonely for a while but there is a happy ending eventually.

Answer 4

There is no best way to deal with this. Everyone has different ways of dealing with this, some cry, some scream and some hold it all in and stay strong for others. My sister in law and best friend died a year ago I stayed strong for everyone I knew, this was because I knew they needed me to be there for them. But when I was alone I cried and tried to remember the good times we had. I have a journal that I write in just for her, some days I write how cruel life is now that she is gone and how angry I am about it and other days I write about my memories of the times we shared. She died of brain cancer she was only 33.

I never stop talking about her one way that I feel better is to tell people about her. She was a wonderful, loving soul who battled cancer for 6 years. She lived life to the fullest and everyone that knew her loved her. I go and visit her grave on holidays and times when I need to feel close to her. She was cremated some of her ashes were buried and the other are on an altar at her husbands house. We actually went hiking a few weeks ago and spread some of her ashes on the wind and said some personal words.

Answer 5

I don't think there is a best way, if there is I wish I knew it. My mother died 3 years ago, grandmother 2 years ago, close friend this year. Truth is time does help, but it hurts. The advice I can give you is try a journal, when your sad write down happy things and good memories, when you wish you could have them to talk to write them a letter. It sounds weird, but I went to a Grief Support Group. They recommended it and it saved my life. Literally, saved my life. I couldn't cope well at all after my mother. It is still very hard and punches me right in the gut sometimes, especially holidays. The support group is hard to open yourself up, I was not happy about going, but went to help my dad. We couldn't believe how much it helped us. My thoughts are with you, best of luck.
Be careful about going to a Doctor and asking for help, the anti depressants they put me on delayed my dealing with it. It's a hard thing to except.

Answer 6

To cope is not the issue here. You need to deal with it. When a loved one dies, I act strong for those around me. I show strength and happiness. When I am a lone I grieve. This happens on it's own time. Time is the best way to deal with death, strength is another way. It is up to you. You must handle it on your terms that is the best way!

Answer 7

The only thing that will help is time my father passed away 5yrs ago and it got easier your loved one is always on your mind but it does get easier with time.I still think of my father every day I see people that dress similar to the way he dressed and it reminds me or something at the store that I know he liked. Just remember it will get easier as time goes bye and it helps to think of the good times and always keep them in your heart. I'm praying for you. Wishing you well.

Answer 8

There is no "best way" because every one handles grief differently. You have to allow yourself to feel your grief, for example, you have to cry and get mad, you have to tell yourself it is okay to miss your loved one.

Talk about your loved one as much as you need to. Remembering them by talking about them is a great way to cope. Start traditions for remembering. I always send my mom a note in a hellium balloon on her birthay - to let her know I am thinking of her.

Don't let anyone rush you either. Take as much time as you need. Good luck.

Answer 9

Everyone has there own way to deal with this. Some grieve some try to remember the good things and memories. There is in my opinion no wrong way to Handel this , there are just different ways to deal with it.

Answer 10

Time and sometimes it takes longer to get over than it does others. Talking to someone that was close to that person sometimes helps. A good cry always helps.